Frankly, I have little patience for people who, even in this day and age, keep serving up endless inspiration — glossing over life’s real difficulties with feel-good platitudes.
Especially over the past two years, whether through messages in my backend or during destiny readings (命理), I’ve felt clearly how much pressure people are carrying from every direction. I myself have been through one upheaval after another, so I want to share something real — advice that can actually help you climb out of your darkest moments faster.
1 — Understand this: every single person is destined to go through a few years of absolute chaos. During those years, nothing goes right and nothing gets done. All the bad luck and misfortune will descend on you at once — as if summoned by a battle horn — wave after wave.
In my terms, this is when you’ve entered the downhill phase: when fortune turns against you and misfortune comes knocking at the door.
Don’t panic. Everyone goes through this. Tell yourself: no streak of bad luck lasts forever. Even the worst fortune has an ending. When you’re in this phase, don’t fight fate head-on like a stubborn fool. Let the rough stretch run its full course.
2 — During the downhill phase, never expect or depend on anyone — not even family or close friends.
Human nature is self-preservation. People watch from a safe distance and only invest their energy and resources where they see a return. So whatever you do, don’t let your emotional lows expose your most broken, defeated side to others in hopes of getting sympathy.
If you need to cry, do it under the covers — sob your heart out. Then wake up the next morning and face your difficulties with your head held high.
A noble benefactor (Gui Ren) would also rather lift up someone with the courage to face adversity — not someone who falls apart the moment things get hard.
3 — Your social circle matters more than most people realize.
Look around — the people whose lives have steadily deteriorated are almost always those surrounded by pessimists. After going through their own decline, those people carry enormous resentment and bitterness, and they feed it to each other daily in a cycle of defeatist talk.
Over time, this will poison your spirit and erode your will to fight. You’ll become dark and cynical without even noticing.
I have zero tolerance for this. So whenever I hit a low point, I make a deliberate effort to upgrade my circle — to surround myself with people who are upbeat, driven, and hungry to move forward.
People are interesting that way: misfortune is contagious, but so is a thriving Chi field (气场). Bad luck spreads between people, and so does the energy of those who are flourishing.
4 — During a downhill phase, the worst thing you can do is play your cards recklessly.
Your state of mind is poor, anxious, and scattered — exactly the conditions that attract unreliable people and situations. So instead of pushing aggressively forward, hold your position and defend what you have.
Have you noticed that many of the wealthiest names out there tend to travel and read extensively during their downturns? This is genuinely wise. It distances you from the center of trouble while simultaneously building up your Chi fortune (气运) and restoring your personal aura (气场).
5 — The downhill stretch is actually one of life’s most important lessons. It reveals the true face of the world — and your own blind spots — with painful, bone-deep clarity.
You’ll come to understand that “everyone chases gain” and “money determines the warmth of human relationships” are not empty lines from a book. They are cold, hard reality.
You’ll feel disappointed and bitter toward many people, and you’ll carry anger for a while.
Then, slowly, you’ll begin to accept it: this is simply human nature. You have no choice but to make peace with that truth.
And then you’ll start looking inward — recognizing your own past naïveté and tallying up the immature mistakes you once made. From there, you’ll emerge with a broader life pattern (格局) and a steadier, more measured approach to everything you do.
No one is born with a god’s perspective, a bodhisattva’s compassion, and an emperor’s methods. These things are forged through experience.
6 — I find it genuinely difficult to have deep conversations with people who have never been through a downhill phase. The gap in lived experience is simply too wide.
Before going through it, most people instinctively believe: My life is supposed to move steadily upward — no setbacks, no retreats. And all those terrible things that happen to others? They could never happen to me.
But after surviving a downhill stretch and coming out the other side, you understand: no life moves in a straight line. Rising and falling, stumbling and recovering — that is the norm. You realize you had more blind spots than you knew and more room for growth than you’d ever admitted.
Only after living through that can you truly claim to have matured.
7 — One final point to close on — high signal density:
The downhill phase is not the universe trying to push you into a dead end. It is giving you the space to pause, reflect, take stock, and completely rebuild yourself.
It is a checkpoint. It is also a lesson.
Don’t misread the universe’s intention and use it as an excuse to collapse and give up entirely.
Speaking from my own experience — having been through enough of these — I’ve come to understand clearly that every downhill stretch exists to align you with your current fortune cycle (大运) and push you to adapt. And when you finally reach the bottom of that valley, a rebound is inevitable.
When that moment arrives, you will treasure the opportunities and gains ahead far more than you ever would have before. And you will achieve something greater for it.
Trust the path. Walk forward without fear. The outcome will be good.