I’ve always felt that many women today carry a deep misconception about those three words: “love yourself.”
In my view, loving yourself as a woman isn’t simply spending money on flashy, impractical things — pretty clothes, luxury fragrances, expensive designer goods. That kind of buy-buy-buy self-love is, at its core, the result of being brainwashed by brands. It’s the mentality of someone who gets taken advantage of without even realizing it.
True self-love is when you begin to understand the value of long-term planning — and genuinely commit to taking responsibility for your own life.
It’s the moment you wake up to the fact that every single outcome in your life is built from countless choices, big and small.
For instance, you learn to set aside pure emotion and start, bit by bit, making each choice as deliberately and wisely as you can.
Or you begin approaching life from the sweeping vantage point of “integrated planning” — thinking seriously about how to achieve better results across every major dimension of your life.
Understand this: the most frightening thing for a person isn’t being poor right now, being mediocre, having no romantic prospects, lacking skills, or not knowing how to build wealth.
The most frightening thing is knowing all of this about yourself — and still spending your days paralyzed in meaningless panic, refusing to do anything to save yourself.
I’ll be honest with you: I’ve encountered many women like this. About 10% of the women who come to me for a destiny reading (命盘 analysis) carry some version of this problem.
They are lazy yet greedy. Timid yet impulsive. Ignorant yet inexplicably self-assured.
What’s more — because they’ve never thought about their own lives from a sufficiently elevated perspective — their most fatal flaw is this: the moment they put in even a little effort and don’t immediately see results, they drop everything and quit. They sink back into a state of chronic mental fatigue and stagnation.
But here’s what you need to understand: for women, those 25 years between age 20 and 45 were never meant to be lived in gray, quiet emptiness.
A little confusion, anxiety, and unease? That’s perfectly normal. In fact, it’s your inner voice reminding you in real time: it’s time to do something to save yourself. That restlessness is a sign your instincts are sharp.
So precisely because of that — even if you have to grit your teeth, even if you have to summon every ounce of courage — push yourself out of your comfort zone. Do things that are a little hard, but that will clearly be worth it for you in the long run.
I’ve never claimed to have the powers of a deity. I don’t. But the reason I’ve been able to help so many women turn their fates around is this: after accurately reading their life pattern (格局), I encourage them to start from the smallest yet most effective details and work forward, one step at a time.
Not long ago, a woman came specifically to thank me. She said: “Master, the words you used to guide me were absolutely brutal — but I truly have to thank you for the wake-up call. Everyone around me either puts me down endlessly or flatters me to the point of destruction. Not one person has ever given me guidance this complete, from a perspective this elevated.”
She wrote this, by the way, on a note attached to a box of cherries she sent me.
Who would have imagined that five years ago, this woman was the most ordinary of white-collar workers — and yet today she stands as a leading figure in a niche segment of Shanghai’s medical aesthetics industry?
Years have passed, but I still remember it clearly: the advice I gave her followed my own signature style — pragmatic, sincere, and methodical. Step by deliberate step.
The good in someone’s destiny, I never conceal. The difficult parts, I lay out plainly. It’s like working through a complex exam paper together — I explain both the answers and how to untangle the reasoning behind them, every bit of it.
Perhaps at this moment, you haven’t yet decided whether to come to me for a reading.
That’s fine. But I still want to tell you this: in all my years of practice, the women I’ve seen who went on to build truly beautiful lives were never the smartest ones.
On the contrary, they were the ones who could take life’s slaps — one after another — and then, after absorbing the pain and sitting with it, wipe the blood from the corner of their mouth and hit back even harder.
Not just hit back — but start carefully studying how to suffer less, and how to seize more opportunities and control their own destiny going forward.
Of course, this is where a deep foundation in Chinese metaphysics (玄学) becomes genuinely invaluable. Because if a woman can see her own destiny curve clearly — her fortune cycles (运势), her turning points, her strengths and dangers — she can walk her path while stepping around far fewer pitfalls, and gathering far more blessings.
But no matter what: remember this above all else.
As a woman — as long as you never stop being brave, you will be unbreakable.
Notice I said never stop. Always. Brave.