Student Question
Hello Master, I was recently officially promoted to Deputy Director of the Office. I’ve already sent thank-you messages to the senior leader and my direct supervisor.
I’d like to treat the leaders and colleagues to a dinner, but our department has quite a few members — inviting everyone isn’t appropriate. Privately, I’ve dined with the senior leader before. When I invite the senior leader, should I also propose bringing the other two leaders along?
Would that be the more appropriate approach? And if I do add more people, should I invite them all at once, or is there a better way to handle it?
Master Chi’s Response
Since you’re the one hosting the senior leader, they should be the center of this gathering — and the decision of who else attends should rest with them as well.
Here’s how to approach it: Report to the senior leader first. Once they agree to come, follow up by asking: “Leader, who else would be appropriate to have join you? I’d like to defer to your preference.”
If the leader gives you a list of names, follow it exactly. If the leader says, “You decide,” then suggest the two direct supervisors — and execute whatever the senior leader directs.
This approach clearly demonstrates your thoughtfulness, loyalty, and respect. The senior leader will feel genuinely appreciated.
You’ve just been promoted. In the near term, focus on these key points:
- Stay low-key and humble. Don’t be too conspicuous or self-congratulatory.
- Act with steadiness. Think carefully before making any move; avoid missteps.
- Study your leader closely. Understand their intentions accurately, then translate that understanding into concrete action and visible results — so your leader feels reassured and satisfied.