With graduation season upon us this summer, many parents from well-established families have been asking me whether they should start identifying suitable marriage matches based on their children’s romance fortune (桃花运).
After all, today’s genuinely marriage-ready young men and women are increasingly being “pre-selected” by families within their social circles before they even turn 30.
Over the past two months alone, I’ve organized several small tea gatherings that brought together children from good families — and quite a few promising connections were made.
Yet I wouldn’t actually encourage them to charge straight toward marriage. There’s no need.
Because Master Chi’s advice is this: young people, you must first put your energy into building your career, your wealth fortune, and your noble benefactor luck (Gui Ren).
Only by genuinely grinding it out in society — building enough wealth as your foundation, gaining the hard-won experience that comes from navigating life’s trials — will you naturally develop both the capability and the financial means to handle the everyday demands of family life.
Household chores? Hire a housekeeper. Childcare? Hire a nanny. Property, education, daily expenses — you name it.
You’ll find that 99.99% of family problems come down to one thing: not enough wealth.
When there isn’t enough wealth, there isn’t enough space, there aren’t enough hands — and conflict between partners will inevitably spike.
I also firmly believe in this saying: when husband and wife are poor, everything decays.
It’s not that poverty itself invites misfortune. It’s that insufficient wealth forces both parties into constant arguments, fights, and cold silences. One problem isn’t resolved before the next one arrives — everything piles up — and naturally, nothing succeeds and everything falls apart.
So I’ll say it again, to all young people:
It’s not “start a family and build a career” (成家立业) — it’s “build your career, and your family will follow” (业立家成).