Sharing a little-known approach to becoming stronger: find your true noble benefactors, and let good people change the course of your fate.
Look back on your own experiences. When good things happened to you, wasn’t it always one or two key people who made the difference — giving you the opportunity, giving you the help? The various people in your network, at certain moments, combine their influence to determine the direction of your life and the level of your fortune. This is why we must learn to build good relationships, and learn to rely on them.
There are two practical methods. The first is to find good-hearted people of strength. You don’t need to go searching the streets — start with your own life. Good bosses and colleagues in the workplace, friends who bring you genuine happiness, family members who are close to you — engage with them more, help them sincerely, and regularly share your real needs with them.
I’m sure you’ve heard of the Six Degrees of Separation theory: the number of people between you and any stranger is no more than six. In other words, you can reach anyone in the world through at most six connections. The noble benefactors in your life each carry their own network. Build positive relationships with them, and you effectively gain the support of countless people. This is exactly why we always say: cherish the people around you.
The second method: trust your instincts, and distance yourself from people with a “black hole” energy. Just as there are positive relationships, there are negative ones — and in life, negative relationships outnumber positive ones. Knowing the wrong people will inevitably bring misfortune. When it comes to reading people, you must rely on your own instincts. Trust them. Cultivate your capacity to be intolerant of pain. Any relationship that causes you pain or confusion is not a good one — let it go, and do it promptly.