Let me be straight with you: if you truly want to grow, the two most important things are reading good books and working hard. The stuff you find online may seem reasonable — and it is, to a degree — but that’s all it is.
Everyone grows up in different circumstances, with different personalities and different natural gifts. There really isn’t a single methodology that works for everyone.
I used to go online with the intention of learning. Did it help? Yes — but nowhere near as much as I imagined.
The biggest thing it gave me was understanding why certain highly successful people are so exceptional. Honestly, it’s not much different from listening to sports commentary while watching a game.
But does knowing why great people are great actually make you great? No, it doesn’t.
Because what you’re missing isn’t perspective — it’s systematic learning and intensive, sustained practice.
Watch sports every day — does that turn you into a star athlete? Obviously not.
Look back at your own day. How much of it is genuinely spent on improving yourself?
I’d guess most people don’t break one hour a day.
So what’s there to be anxious about? If you’re not doing the basics, of course you won’t see results.
In my work I’ve met many highly intelligent people — people who can track and organize complex information purely in their heads. But for most ordinary people, that doesn’t work. You need to write things down. Take a few minutes each day to reflect on what went wrong, what went right, what lessons you learned.
Yet from what I see, very few people actually maintain a daily work summary. Seriously — very few people even spend five minutes thinking about the day’s wins and losses.
A lot of people say, “I don’t know what to write.”
But you lived through an entire day — was it really a total blank? Not one step forward?
If that’s how one day goes, then a week, a month, a year — how much growth can you actually expect?
Food has to be eaten one bite at a time. If you don’t build the habit of daily accumulation, and then hit a major life challenge expecting to swallow it whole — you can’t, and life feels impossibly hard. Of course you’ll be anxious.