Recently, a once-top male actor went viral again — so much so that even I, who rarely scrolls through short videos, kept seeing news about him. As someone who was hugely famous in the entertainment world, the state he’s in now is genuinely melancholy to witness.
So let me just say a few words — both as my personal perspective, and as my most sincere advice to him and to others like him.
1 — In a person’s lifetime, the real windows of great momentum are usually just one or two. Once they pass, they pass. Don’t assume that because you were once riding high, you can copy-paste that success — especially when crossing into a completely different field.
So if you’ve made it: hold it, don’t wreck it. Live well. And if a genuine opportunity comes along, make small, low-risk attempts that don’t drain your vitality. That’s the wisest course.
This is also one of the most important lessons in life.
2 — Never take on things that far exceed your capacity — this is something I remind myself of constantly.
If you can fill a storehouse by carrying ten pounds of rice ten times over, don’t try to carry a hundred pounds in one trip hoping to do it all at once.
Knowing your own limits truly matters. Better to earn small and accumulate into something large — getting the little things right one step at a time — than to spend your days dreaming of one dramatic all-in gamble that turns everything around.
3 — I genuinely feel sorry for him, because over these past few years, he has actually held what is perhaps the most valuable resource of our era: traffic and audience attention.
With those resources, if he had simply settled down and built some modest, grounded businesses, he could have cultivated something real and lasting.
Instead, time and again, he pursued ventures far beyond what he could handle — deepening the market’s and investors’ negative perception of him each time — until the opportunities that could have connected with him grew rarer and rarer.
4 — Stability in marriage is genuinely, deeply important. Prolonged emotional entanglement and marital breakdown are both enormously draining on the spirit.
Master Chi has seen this with his own eyes far too many times — how a troubled marriage sets off a chain reaction that brings a career crashing down alongside it, ending in awkwardness and regret.
My advice: either remain fully independent, or fully commit to walking the path together. Don’t exhaust yourself endlessly in romantic turmoil — especially if you’re an ordinary person.
That’s all I have to say on this.
I’ve been busy with travel lately, so my writing has been fairly brief. But regardless, I still want to check in with you every few days — that has become an important part of my life too.
Longer, more substantive articles should slowly resume after the 25th. Thank you for your understanding.