Modern marriage is weighed down by too many shackles. The expectations we place on each other are simply too high.
In truth, we must first become a 100-point version of ourselves — then pursue a 70-point marriage.
A 70-point marriage, by definition, has both arguments and unspoken understanding. There are moments of irritation and moments of deep affection, of helping each other through difficulty. That is a real marriage with genuine human warmth.
When we become a 100-point version of ourselves, we can maintain a powerful inner core no matter the circumstances. We hold onto the confidence to enjoy life.
When we bring our 100-point selves and 70-point expectations into marriage, your married life may actually grow better and better over time.
Yes — modern marriage has been loaded with too much. It can no longer bear the weight. Love has become merely a decorative wrapper. Underneath, it is nothing but desire.
I said it in my community back then: don’t set your expectations for marriage so high. Many people couldn’t understand it at the time. Can you understand it now?