A reader with a greedy request: Hello, Master. I’ve seen so many people leaving you messages lately, and I’d like to be a little greedy myself and ask you to talk about marriage.
I believe many readers, like me, feel confused and lost when it comes to this major life matter — not knowing who is worth treasuring, and who we should stay away from.
So if you’re willing to say a few words on this, I’m sure it could save countless people’s happiness and families. Thank you!
Hello there, you greedy soul. Since you’ve asked, I’ll answer you completely in a single passage: if marriage is like a building, then the person most worth treasuring is the one who is willing to give everything — working with you to build that structure higher and stronger.
Not the hands-off manager who leaves you alone to struggle and patch things up by yourself. The answer is just that simple.
Let me give you an example. Some couples behave in ways that are simply baffling. When a disagreement arises, their first instinct isn’t to find the root cause of the problem and overcome it to make the family better. Instead, their first instinct is to launch into fierce internal warfare — the husband smashes a bowl, so the wife has to throw the television. The wife says something harsh, so the husband immediately raises his fists.
The attitude, in short, is: “You go hard? I’ll go harder.”
With that attitude, a marriage is like a crumbling building that was already falling apart — and instead of repairing it, both sides use it as a target to express their contempt and arrogance.
So tell me — what reason is there to maintain such a marriage, such a partner?
The kindest thing for everyone is to part ways sooner rather than later.
So in Master Chi’s view, the person truly worth holding onto — regardless of gender, status, or background — must possess two qualities:
- They treasure this hard-won marriage.
- They are willing to help you fulfill your life within the marriage.
Only when both conditions are met can the building called marriage withstand countless storms and remain steadfast — offering both of you a warm and solid shelter. And what it depends on is your shared, continuous maintenance and care.
Let me start with the first point: “treasuring this hard-won marriage.”
Have you ever wondered why divorce rates are so high in this day and age, even as everyone claims that true love is impossible to find? The root of the problem, in fact, lies with the people themselves.
They are unwilling to bear the responsibility of sustaining a marriage, yet they expect someone else to carry all the emotional labor and financial burden.
Tell me — can people who think this way ever have a good marriage? Think about it. Of course not.
And yet in today’s world, there is no shortage of people with exactly this scheming mentality. Their logic is simple: I don’t have to do anything — but my partner must provide endless emotional support to keep me happy, while also shouldering enormous financial pressure so I can live however I please. If they fail to deliver, then they never truly loved me — they’re a fraud who deceived my sincere heart.
If you’re nodding along in recognition, then you already know: people with this mindset are almost always at the bottom of the social ladder — the mama’s boys, the pampered sparrows. Only they harbor this peculiar entitlement of wanting everything while giving nothing.
Normal people don’t think this way — especially mature, responsible adults.
To truly treasure a marriage is to understand that what you’ve built together was never easy, and so you genuinely want to make it vibrant and full of life. If there’s a conflict, it’s fine — let’s coordinate and figure out how to make things better. If something doesn’t fit, no problem — communicate, find a solution, do our best to prevent it from happening again. The guiding spirit, at heart, is: harmony above all.
Couples with this mindset will find their family life growing richer and more flourishing over time, and both their careers and wealth will expand as well. Anyone with life experience — man or woman — knows deeply what the old saying means: “When the family is in harmony, all things prosper.” It’s nearly impossible to be falling apart at home and still have the focus and composure to handle your affairs in the outside world.
So regardless of gender, background, appearance, or body type — if your partner treasures this bond, is willing to invest time and energy, and actively works to turn a bad situation into a better one, don’t doubt it for a second. That is a good husband. That is a good wife. That is a good partner.
Now let’s talk about the second quality: “being willing to help you fulfill your life within the marriage.”
Whether you’re a man or a woman, I genuinely hope you take this to heart — because so many people have suffered greatly for lack of it.
Let me start with men. The most typical case is the man who marries in the prime of his life, full of ambition, ready to build something great. His wife may be a good woman in many ways — yet she meddles and obstructs everything.
No socializing allowed. No hosting dinners. Constant demands to report his whereabouts. Using the family as leverage to force him to give up precious career opportunities.
In Master Chi’s experience — and I’ve seen a great deal — I’ve rarely seen couples like this who don’t eventually fall apart.
By contrast, those who achieve abundance in both family and career share a common pattern: both partners have clear heads.
Take the woman who, whether or not she’s a full-time homemaker, carries in her heart a wholehearted desire to support her husband in his endeavors. In small things, she keeps the household in perfect order so he doesn’t have to worry. In bigger matters, she offers him counsel and strategy, step by step. Couples like this, as long as they stay together, will almost without exception become the new elite of their era. No exceptions.
Now for women: to earn respect, admiration, and support in marriage is even more difficult. If your husband gives you all of these things, hold on tight.
Because in Master Chi’s observation of the majority of middle-class women, almost all of them face dual pressures — career and family — once they reach a certain age. On one side is the professional world’s suppression of women. On the other is the husband’s constant fanning of flames and cutting remarks.
Don’t think this is rare. Many of the women who come to me for destiny readings share this as their greatest struggle in marriage: “Master Chi, my husband is deeply threatened by the fact that I earn more than him.” “Master, my husband is extremely resentful that I know more than he does.” “Teacher, my husband insists I stay home full-time.”
So does the husband love his wife? Yes, he does. But male ego gets in the way — he would rather she amount to nothing than see her succeed, profit, and thrive.
Under these conditions, no matter how strong the love between them, the woman’s life will not be a good one. After all, people are not livestock — a life of confinement only accumulates negative energy.
I never believe that a man who suppresses his wife while promising to bear all financial responsibility will ever amount to much. Think about it: when a grown man needs to build his sense of self-worth on top of his wife’s limitations — rather than going out to conquer the world — you’re telling me he has potential? I simply cannot believe it.
I have no shortage of high-caliber, well-established, elite men in my circle. My closest brothers are all like this. And what do they have in common?
Whatever their wife’s ambitions — as long as they are positive, uplifting, and beneficial to the family and to herself — they support them unconditionally and help however they can.
Some of their wives have, with their husbands’ support, risen to excellent positions within established institutions. Some have, with their husbands’ backing, become well-known jewelers in their field. Some have, under their husbands’ guidance, become accomplished investors.
Every one of these women is distinguished — as capable of elegance in the drawing room as mastery in the kitchen. Not a trace of the deflation that comes from being crushed by marriage. Instead, they radiate the happiness that comes from being nourished by love and care.
So in truth, marriage holds no mystical complexity. Six characters, every stroke clear: “Cherish you. Fulfill you.” That is the most essential core of all.