Let me state this upfront: today’s article is critically important for female readers — especially for those who are tired of their own mediocrity but have no idea how to change their situation.
So if you truly care about your own life, please give yourself the next twenty minutes to read this article carefully and absorb it completely.
By the end, you’ll discover that there are real reasons behind your struggles — because every hardship and every blessing in your life is the result of choices you have made.
Those who follow me know that, thanks to the nature of my work, I have the privilege of interacting frequently with a large number of exceptional women at the top of society. These women, in addition to believing in hard work and self-reliance, deeply respect the wisdom of traditional Chinese learning.
As it happens, my area of expertise is Purple Star Astrology (Zi Wei Dou Shu) — essentially the ability to read a person’s destiny map. Combined with a long-standing reputation for accuracy, I’ve had the opportunity to serve as their guide in the realm of Chinese metaphysics (玄学).
But today, what I want to share is not about Chinese metaphysics itself. Rather, it’s about the exceptional and refined life wisdom I’ve learned from these accomplished women as I’ve helped them navigate their paths.
Why do I want to do this? No particular reason — purely out of hope that my readers, especially my female readers, can grow and improve through these insights and find their way to a smoother, more fulfilling life in this unforgiving world.
Now, let me be clear about who these women are. The ones I’m referring to have net worths ranging from the mid-nine figures to ten figures — genuine, undisputed women of power and substance. Whether their wealth was inherited or built from nothing, reaching that level inevitably requires depth and a strong foundation.
So if these insights are endorsed by them, they are more than sufficient to handle whatever life you are navigating.
Today I’ll share four key points. Not too many, not too few — just enough to slowly digest through the night. The third and fourth sections are the most important: they have the power to completely overturn the logic you currently use to run your life. Read them carefully.
1 — Convert All Negative Energy into Nourishment
Whenever I want to assess a woman’s level, the most effective thing to observe is how she responds to adversity in her life.
If a woman gets tangled up in negative energy and can’t move past it, then — I’m sorry — until she solves that problem, she belongs at the very bottom rungs of society. Only when she learns to dissolve negative energy does she have any chance of truly beginning again.
Why do I say this?
Because you must remember four words: circumstances follow the mind (境随心转).
What is the “mind”? It’s not just the lens through which you see the world — it’s also the attitude with which you handle every problem that comes your way.
Over these many years, I’ve become close friends with quite a few outstanding female entrepreneurs, businesswomen, artists, and performers, serving as their long-term Chinese metaphysics advisor. The single most consistent trait I’ve observed in all of them is that when they face negative energy, they respond with extraordinary composure.
When they encounter setbacks, they never see them as mere blows. Instead, they interpret the negative energy and the setbacks as a reminder — a signal from their career or from destiny itself.
Why did I suffer a loss this time? Simple: because I was careless in this area. After this experience, I’ll be more guarded and sharpen my abilities here. How fortunate that destiny knocked me awake.
Why was I deceived by a bad man? Simple: because I wasn’t mature enough yet. After this, I understand far better how to identify truly good men. What a gift, this warning from the universe.
And so? The negative energy gets transformed into positive energy. What was draining becomes nourishing. What a powerful and formidable state of mind that is.
On the opposite end are the women who cannot process negative energy. I wonder if you’ve encountered this type — women no older than thirty or forty, yet surrounded by a thick cloud of resentment and grievance. The moment you start talking with them, they fall immediately into the posture of the bitter woman, pouring out complaints endlessly, cataloguing their own miseries without stopping.
Honestly: every pitiful person has something pitiful within themselves. Who in this world hasn’t faced setbacks? Who hasn’t cried alone late at night?
You go through it, you get past it, you turn the page. Smart women always convert pain into fuel. Foolish women always use pain as a shield — an excuse to justify their own inaction.
The futures these two types of women build are naturally worlds apart. Even a woman with great potential will self-destruct if she’s consumed by bitterness. But a woman who shines like the sun — even with her flaws — will always find her way to a bright and open future.
2 — Stop Thinking Small. Develop a Clear, Big-Picture View of Life
Let me share something I’ve been quietly proud of for years: nearly every person I’ve advised — men and women alike — has told me some version of: “Master, your readings are not only precise, they reflect an extraordinary breadth of perspective. You’re so clear-sighted.”
Of course, everyone phrases it a bit differently, but the meaning is always the same.
The reason I receive such feedback is simple: I never like to waste a reader’s precious life energy on minor setbacks or trivial fluctuations in wealth fortune (财运).
What I prefer is to lay out the full architecture of your life clearly and completely — to catch the big things and let the small things go. In a reading, I always focus on what matters most:
What is the best career path for you, and how should you walk it? How do you maximize your advantage while staying safe and grounded?
What type of partner suits you best? How do you find that person, and how do you get your marriage on track?
Which domains of wealth are most aligned with you? When should you enter, and which areas should you focus on?
Which periods of your life are meant for charging forward? Which are for resting and recovery?
Every word, every sentence — all focused on the critical decisions. The ones that, once made correctly, set you free for a lifetime.
This is also why nearly every reader who consults me in the first year comes back in the second year to ask about their next annual fortune cycle (流年). No special reason — big-picture clarity is simply my strength.
There is one type of reader I find particularly draining: the person who loves to blow up every minor detail of life until it fills their entire field of vision — someone whose entire being radiates the impoverished qualities of making mountains out of molehills, short-sightedness, and narrow-mindedness.
I encounter this type fairly regularly, and whenever I do, I feel the full weight of what it means to be a low-achieving person.
For example: I’m walking someone through their career development and life planning for the next ten years, and she keeps interrupting to ask about a coworker who won’t help her print documents and didn’t include her at lunch.
Or: I’m carefully explaining which type of man is best suited for her, how she should improve herself step by step, and which key dates to watch — and she keeps looping back to complain that her ex never cooked for her.
In situations like these, I’m genuinely conflicted. I have a responsibility to help her understand the full scope of her destiny — but I can’t follow her down an utterly pointless rabbit hole.
So every time I encounter someone like this, I find it genuinely exhausting.
But my point remains: the difference in caliber between women rarely shows up in petty little schemes and small-minded calculations. Because no matter how clever the small mind is, it can never compete with true wisdom.
I once gave this advice to a young woman who had been trapped in small-minded thinking for a long time:
The best revenge against your enemies and rivals is not to brawl with them like a shrieking woman, nor to become a petty schemer who stabs them from behind. Those are small games played by small people.
True wisdom means either controlling them through real leverage or disarming them entirely through emotional intelligence. Either way — with complete ease — you remove them from the grand blueprint of your life.
Then, a few years from now, once you’ve risen — turn back and ask, with casual, almost bored curiosity: “Hm? How is it that after all these years, you’re still at the very bottom?”
3 — Build Your Own System of Interests. Learn to Compound Yourself
I consider myself fortunate in one particular way: thanks to my background in a business family and the nature of my work, I get to witness almost every year as former friends, readers, and associates succeed in their own ways.
The insight that strikes me most deeply from all these living examples is this: Rome was absolutely not built in a day.
The readers who have managed to succeed in this era are, almost without exception, beneficiaries of compound thinking. Their industries may vary widely, but the underlying logic of their success follows the same pattern:
When everyone else was dismissive and unwilling to try, they carved out time — through sheer willpower — to explore and feel their way into entrepreneurship.
And even when things started badly, they held the attitude of accumulating each small step to travel a thousand miles. With one small article, one short video, one tiny increment of daily effort, they slowly cultivated their personal brand and began attracting customers one by one.
Over time, their followers and clients began to accumulate — and I want you to notice that word: accumulate. These followers and clients became their earliest cash flow and source of profit. They became the foundation of confidence.
Then, when expanding into new directions, those followers became original capital. The snowball of capital rolled bigger and bigger, until it became a stable and prosperous business.
I’ve mentioned several of these women over the past year or two — women who broke through to financial abundance through sheer persistence. They are the best proof. Every single one of them was a completely ordinary, unknown office worker three or four years ago.
But because they could take one simple, unglamorous task and grind at it with dedication for three full years — now they are iron trees bearing fruit, with tens of thousands flowing in every month, building their own quiet streams of wealth in the mother-and-baby communities, group-buying circles, and everyday goods markets.
That paragraph above may only be a hundred-odd words, but the truth is very few people in real life can actually live it. Most people — or more honestly, the vast majority of housewives and junior office workers who spend every day complaining about not earning enough — haven’t even nailed the first step. They’re all talk, thunderous with words, but completely incapable of sustained, consistent action. Short-term thinkers, every one of them.
And so it’s simple: they will never build their Rome. Not in this lifetime.
That kind of wealth is not theirs to hold, and they don’t have what it takes to hold it.
4 — See This World for What It Truly Is
I don’t want to write too long today. But there are a few truths I hope you come to understand as early as possible — because some insights, understood a few years earlier versus a few years later, carry an enormous difference in their impact on your life:
● When you are not yet strong, no one will regard your existence with any respect. Your careful, anxious attempts to please others will be read as servile flattery. Your genuine hard work will be dismissed as pointless striving.
So — even though you are a woman — I still hope you become a strong person: one with an iron will, financial abundance, a thick-skinned inner core, and a meticulously crafted outer presence. Because only then can you have happiness and ease.
● For women who come from ordinary families and who are neither strikingly beautiful nor particularly distinguished — the greatest danger in your youth is believing a man’s promises and abandoning your own development and evolution in the process.
A smart woman always sheds her skin every three years — optimizing, updating, and improving everything about herself. Never, ever believe that any man can be relied upon for a lifetime. Everything in this world is telling you that’s a fantasy.
The only person you can ever truly rely on in this world is yourself. Don’t be naive. Don’t lose your head. Do you understand?
● Accept your destiny objectively and rationally. This is how I open every reading with a new client.
Never think your destiny is the worst one out there. Many people’s lives are difficult not because their destiny was bad at its root, but because they never put in the effort to cultivate it or fight for it — and so they missed many of the good things that were actually fated to come to them.
And never envy the destiny of others. No one’s life is absolutely perfect. Behind every gain is a day of repayment — the only difference is that some people paid their dues early, in ways you simply couldn’t see.
So: just do your best. Plant the seed of cause, and Heaven will absolutely return the fruit.
I’ll leave today’s article here. If I write much more, I’m afraid it will be hard to digest.
But there is one thing I want to genuinely commend you for: the fact that you found this article, and read it carefully all the way to this point — that in itself is proof of uncommon perceptiveness.
After all, at this very same moment, most people are curled up in bed, scrolling through meaningless short videos and consuming cheap, empty entertainment.
The fact that you read this to the end proves your patience and your quality.
Good night.