Last night, while analyzing the destiny framework (格局) of one of my readers, I said something to her: A woman cannot go through life without suffering — because much of your growth comes through pain and hardship.
But you cannot keep suffering the same pain over and over again. Because that only proves you haven’t figured things out yet.
I know this sounds cold-blooded. But I say it with a sense of resignation.
Because when some young women come to me for a fortune reading or destiny analysis, I honestly don’t know whether to laugh or cry. I find myself wondering: how can two people both be human, yet one keeps repeating the same mistakes again and again without ever learning?
And yet these women, at their core, are genuinely kind and naive — they simply lack a mentor in their lives who can point out their problems clearly from a higher vantage point.
The First Reminder: Stop keeping “the trauma from my family of origin, the backstabbing from my closest girlfriend, my partner’s change of heart” constantly on your lips. These things aren’t even worth mentioning.
This endless lament — the Xianglin’s Wife posture (a famous literary figure who obsessively repeated her grievances to anyone who would listen) — will not only exhaust everyone around you over time, but will drain your Chi fortune (气运) from all the negativity constantly spilling from your mouth.
If your family was poor, gather your courage early. Admit your parents’ mediocrity. Face the reality of your family’s limited intellectual legacy head-on, and start rebuilding your worldview and values system from scratch.
As for being betrayed by a best friend or abandoned by a partner — simply admit, graciously, that you misjudged them. Learn to recognize the patterns of such people, and keep your distance going forward.
If you can’t do any of this — then please, I’m begging you, do not come to Master Chi for a destiny reading.
Because someone who cannot be helped deserves to sink into the weakness of “waiting, depending, and demanding” — and to stay there for the rest of their life.
The Second Reminder: You must rid yourself, as early as possible, of the “romance-obsessed mind, sentimental heart, and gossip tongue” — because these traits add absolutely nothing to your life.
They will only make your judgment increasingly clouded and your inner life increasingly tangled and sluggish.
Looking back at all the women I have supported over the years, every single one who followed my guidance and achieved class mobility, financial freedom, and a strong marriage had one thing in common: they all placed “developing their own capabilities” in the absolute first position.
Reality bears this out. What truly changes a woman’s destiny is always her appearance, her intelligence, her methods, and her thinking. Everything else is completely trivial.
I often tell the women who come to me for a reading: all your troubles will largely dissolve after you’ve worked incredibly hard and saved your first million.
And nearly all of them have come back to confirm: “Master, you were right. Once the money was in hand, the problems just disappeared.”
The Third Reminder: You must develop a comprehensive understanding of society, human nature, wealth, and power structures — and do it early.
Especially when others are chattering excitedly about variety shows, you should be quietly reading works like Selected Works of Mao Zedong, Discourses on Salt and Iron, Essentials of Government in the Zhenguan Era, The Ming Dynasty: 1566… until you know them inside and out.
How does one develop a larger destiny framework? How does one sharpen their methods?
Isn’t it through constantly expanding your knowledge, learning from those wiser than you, reading widely and accumulating experience — and gradually building your inner strength from within?
This is exactly why I always feel uneasy when a woman comes for a reading and keeps circling back to emotional disputes and unhappy marriages, crying over the same ground again and again.
Please — it’s just the trivial affairs between you and one man. And a man who isn’t particularly sharp or capable at that. You can’t handle this?
Shouldn’t you be asking yourself: why does someone like this leave you tossing and turning at night, unable to eat or sleep?
The honest answer is that your social capability is simply too weak — which is why you find yourself going toe-to-toe with a worthless man as though you’re somehow on equal footing.
The Fourth Reminder: To be frank, before I begin a destiny reading for anyone, I always clarify one thing first: you must be sure you can handle my criticism and hard truths — because once I open my mouth, I will lay your problems bare, clearly and without mercy.
I don’t care about your feelings. I only care about making clear why you are so weak, and why you are failing to live up to your potential.
Good medicine is always bitter. Honest counsel always stings.
And to be clear — my advice isn’t just hard to hear. Sometimes it burns.
The Fifth Reminder: You must find your natural gifts, your domain, and your positioning as early as possible.
People often say “a man fears entering the wrong profession; a woman fears marrying the wrong man.” But this thinking is decades out of date. The reality is: women have far more to fear from entering the wrong field than men do — because a woman’s natural margin for error is at least 40% lower than a man’s.
What’s interesting is that — perhaps because of this very dynamic — women often find it easier to achieve excellent results, and quickly.
But all of this depends on one condition: knowing where your true point of leverage actually is.
Honestly, I’ve seen far too many women who are genuinely excellent material, yet trapped in fields that are completely wrong for them.
Sometimes it’s not that you aren’t working hard enough. It’s that if you simply shifted your angle slightly, all the good things — wealth, noble benefactors (贵人, Gui Ren), opportunities, a bright future — would crack open like the meat inside a nutshell, yours for the taking.
The Sixth Reminder: Of all the things I dread hearing from a woman reader, this is the worst: “Master, isn’t doing it step by step like this… very tiring?”
Truly, every time I hear a woman say this, I silently say a prayer for her — hoping that her difficult road ahead will involve a little less suffering.
You need to understand: there is nothing in this world that comes painlessly, effortlessly, and easily.
But don’t be afraid. I don’t want you grinding yourself down every single day either — bent over in exhaustion, burning yourself out completely.
This is why, in every reading I conduct, I break the goals into one-year, three-year, five-year, and ten-year cycles.
In the first year, for instance, don’t worry about anything else. Focus solely on renewing your worldview and values. And based on your own destiny chart (命盘), begin making initial contact with the key people in your network — just lay the basic groundwork.
Then in year three, move into a higher-quality environment, make your career pivot and develop your business, and filter out the romantic relationship that is truly right for you.
And so on. Each year, you move in perfect alignment with your own destiny framework — full, grounded, and without exhaustion.
Four or five years later, when you look back, you’ll be astonished at just how much you have accumulated.