If your child — especially your daughter — has grown up with a gentle, obedient personality and a deep love for listening to others and giving them care, then as a parent, you need to be careful. Because those beautiful human qualities of hers are precisely the ones most likely to be exploited by the most depraved of predators — and she may ultimately become their well-trained dog.
Yes, the daughter you have held in the palm of your hand and raised with such tender care may, because of her goodness and naivety, be captured by people with no moral floor whatsoever — and become a lost lamb who gives endlessly without ever thinking to resist. The reason is simple: while she is offering her sincerity and love, a predator will shamelessly exploit those very emotions and become a burden and a curse she cannot cut loose from her life.
Why do women always end up caught by worthless men? Not because those men are charming — but because they always come home after playing the field, and they bow their heads seeking warmth. When they need you, they can humble themselves to the dust, willing to make themselves small and play weak.
Why do men always get dragged down by worthless women? Not because those women are beautiful — but because they always come back to your side after they’ve had their fun, looking pitiful and fragile. When they need you, they can be astonishingly devoted — quietly cooking and tending to your every need.
But all of this is temporary. Fleeting. It never lasts. Given enough time, their true nature always resurfaces — and worse, because they know you’ll forgive them again and again, they’ve already mapped out the full extent of your limits. The saying “give them an inch and they’ll take a mile” never happens all at once — it is built through boundary after boundary being tested, each retreat on your part carving out new territory they now own. And that territory has never been fair. It only ever holds your silent rage.
Who’s to blame? Yourself. You were blind. You trusted them. You gave them the opening — and naturally, they used it to bite the hand that fed them.
Just as the children most likely to cry at another’s misfortune are precisely the children most likely to be exploited by the miserable — the result being that they get dragged straight into the other person’s abyss.
The antidote? Remember these three statements.
I love you — but I have limits. I am willing to give — but I expect to see your sincerity in return.
I will forgive you — but you must pay several times over for the damage and pain you have caused.
There is no forgiveness handed out like gentle spring rain — only condemnation that comes down like a storm. There is no trust given without cause — only trust that has been tested and earned over time.
Don’t think these three statements are too rigid or dogmatic. Master Chi has always hoped you can internalize them and apply them with flexibility — but in matters of love and marriage, the screening and the ground rules must be established early. I have said this repeatedly: never make the mistake of thinking that all a person needs in life is a career and wealth. Marriage and partnership are equally, if not more, consequential. A career and wealth can be rebuilt — but if you sleep beside the wrong person, any attempt to make a different choice later will cost you dearly.
A good union can lift you to the sky in a single step. A bad one can poison your fate entirely.
To put it plainly: do not invest yourself in a marriage that offers you nothing. If you ever find yourself so dizzy with love that you lose your head — I, Master Chi, will personally come with an iron rod to knock some sense back into you. Because I absolutely will not allow your life to be squandered by your own impulse or another person’s worthlessness.
So when necessary, you must learn to be selfish. And if you are already a parent, remember this above all else: never let your child live too long under your protection. Their goodness, their kindness, their moral beauty — these are fine qualities, among the best. But when they meet a predator with an agenda, those qualities are useless.
Let them be wounded and roughed up by the world a little — it will teach them that this world has never lacked for cold-blooded, bottomless people. And when they encounter them, they must learn to cut cleanly and settle scores decisively, leaving nothing behind.
More than that, teach your children: you can give — but you cannot be taken advantage of. Even if you must yield, understand that it is a temporary retreat, not an endless surrender.
Remember: in marriage, whatever you say, whatever you do — whether you are a man or a woman — you should always be moving in the direction of gain. Your partner can be poor, but they must love you. They can offer you less affection, but they must give to you in other ways.
Otherwise, your most important life decision becomes a farce — or worse, you pour everything in and receive not a shred of gratitude in return. If that’s the case, what’s the point?
Master Chi has read the destiny charts of countless people. Through ten thousand words and a thousand situations, everything distills down to one sentence: “A true union should be full of what you receive — not a sacrifice you make for someone else’s benefit.”
The reason I am writing these words today is that Master Chi has seen the story spreading like wildfire these past few days: The Peking University Female Student Who Was Mentally Abused by Her Boyfriend Over Her Non-Virgin Status and Took Her Own Life.
The facts of the case are straightforward enough, so let me summarize briefly: Two young university students came together by chance. The young man was not only handsome but had a certain substance to him — and so the young woman developed a deep admiration and infatuation for him.
But regardless of how much he tried to dress himself up, Master Chi will refer to him here as a predator. Why? Read on.
After the two entered into a committed relationship, the young man discovered that the girl had previously been intimate with another man. He used this as a psychological lever — and began to pressure and manipulate the girl into compensating him in every conceivable way.
And so, this girl who no longer felt “pure” found herself wrapped daily in a fog of put-downs, denial, and blame. Yet simultaneously, the predator kept pouring a different poison into her ear: “I only treat you this way because I love you.” The result was that the girl ultimately accepted the bizarre logic of: “He loves me — that’s why he hates me this much.”
And yes — after months and years of escalating physical and emotional abuse, the girl did at one point awaken and resist. She told him the relationship was no longer worth continuing.
But the predator used her love and guilt against her with surgical precision, demanding she do three things:
1 — She could break up with him, but she had to swear she would never have relations with another man for the rest of her life.
2 — To enforce that oath, she had to become pregnant with his child and then abort it — and she was required to hand over the abortion records to him, so that if she ever broke her vow, he could use those documents to destroy her family.
3 — Most devastating of all: to ensure she could never build a new life, she was required to voluntarily undergo a fallopian tube removal surgery — and hand the removed organ over to him.
The end of the story: under the spell of his lie — “if you love me, prove it by dying” — this poor girl decided to end her life as an act of emotional liberation.
Before she died, she said goodbye to her mother, sent the predator one final message, and swallowed a large dose of medication.
The message to the predator read: “Having met you — someone who shines so brilliantly — I realize I was only ever a piece of garbage.”
At this point, I can only say: ??????
As the title of this referenced event suggests, this poor girl’s life should have gone like this: graduate from school, enter the world, and through the fortune of meeting the right person, build a family with a man who truly loved her, and begin a warm and joyful life together.
Now, none of that is possible.
Is it pitiable? Yes. A young life, extinguished.
But is it also a tragedy — a deeper kind of tragedy? Yes. A girl who graduated from one of China’s most prestigious universities somehow believed the predator’s words: “You are no longer a virgin, so you are no longer whole — you may as well atone with your death.”
She believed it. She actually believed it.
All those years of life, all that love poured in by her parents — and it was no match for one lie from a predator. A tragedy of the deepest kind.
I believe this girl was kind, pure, and passionate. In her future, she would have been a wonderful wife and a devoted mother.
But I also believe she was naive, shallow, and lacking in judgment — and it was precisely those things that led her to be deceived and used by a predator.
The above is Master Chi’s direct response to the event spreading across social media these past two days.
I imagine many of you reading this feel my words are too cold-blooded, too indifferent. After all, most people believe that in death, the departed should be honored — and the focus should be on condemning the perpetrator, not the victim.
That, I would argue, is actually a flawed way of thinking.
Because we must always remember: this world has never lacked for predators and monsters. So rather than spending our energy condemning them, the best response we as third parties can offer is this — extract the “mistakes” the victim made in this case.
Then distill those mistakes into hard-won lessons, and offer them as lived experience to other young women and men.
When predators roaming free is already a given, what we should do is give the vulnerable the weapons to defend themselves.
This is what Master Chi believes: “Though the dead are honored, only the living matter more than anything.”
This brings to mind a destiny reading I once did for a wealthy young woman. Throughout our conversation, she described again and again to Master Chi how deeply she loved this young man, how exceptional and unlike anyone else he was.
Master Chi told her coldly: What you describe about this young man, and all his supposed uniqueness, may well be real.
But life lived alongside another person is not built on pure love and joy alone — it is built on responsibility, on shouldering burdens, on giving without fear.
Today, whether you are a man or a woman, choosing a life partner is the single biggest transaction of your life. And since it is a transaction, your interests and your returns must come first.
Above all else, what matters most is the other person’s capability — and by capability, I do not mean simply their financial resources. I mean whether they and their family can provide you with a sufficient material foundation.
Second is their devotion to you — whether they can place you as their most treasured person, giving to you fully in daily life, holding nothing back. That is: whether they can provide you with a sufficient emotional foundation.
Notice that in both of those points, I am asking for nothing excessive. These are the basics.
If a person only offers one of the two, then whatever that one thing is, it must be taken to an extreme — either they love you so deeply that you are their most precious treasure, or they are so capable that their abundance compensates for every other shortcoming.
Otherwise, you are losing money on the deal.
Today, as someone who has seen thousands of fates — someone your parents have entrusted with considerable care and paid handsomely to give you counsel — and at the same time standing alongside your parents, who love you more than anything and fear only that you might suffer — we say this together:
You may love someone who has nothing. But when it comes to marriage, you have one goal: “Love and money — at least one of the two must be an overwhelming, undeniable abundance.”
Otherwise, what’s wrong with a lifetime of love affairs? Without the constraints of marriage, you can live even more freely on your own terms.
So let the above serve not only as something for you to consider — but as a gift from Master Chi to everyone reading this right now. Master Chi asks for nothing in return. I only hope that your life and your future will always be loved and cherished — even without reason.
And I hope that your children and your children’s children will never be captured by beasts, never harmed by predators — and that they too will find their true match and spend their lives together.
If you still have worries or questions about all of this, allow Master Chi to leave you with one final thought:
Whatever your gender, when the question of marriage comes, do everything in your power to place yourself in as high a social circle as possible.
Because people exist across tiers — and so do the circles they move in. Do not expect to find a partner of true character and genuine potential at the bottom of society’s ladder.
Even if such a person exists there, the probability is vanishingly small. What you are far more likely to find is someone skilled at playing a role — a counterfeit soulmate.
And so I strongly encourage you to use your most attractive years to raise your own “magnetic pull” as high as possible. This is not merely about what happens between the sheets.
It is about the masculine presence and feminine grace you carry in every gesture and movement — this is the fastest shortcut to crossing between tiers.
For the details of this, you may refer to the following two pieces: Ruling the World: The Traits of Top-Tier Men Grace That Commands a Kingdom: The Traits of Top-Tier Women
In short, coming back to the most fundamental principle: once you have identified the type of partner who is right for you, do not hesitate and do not shy away. Do everything in your power to spend time with those who are your match — and who stand at a higher tier.
Because when feelings go deep enough, everything follows naturally. Even the highest-standing people are still people. Many of the seemingly impossible unions — the son-in-law who elevates the whole family, the woman who marries far above her station — are all beneficiaries of exactly this kind of approach.