This afternoon, despite my repeated polite refusals, Miss E showed up anyway — two boxes of hairy crabs and a box of Cohiba cigars in hand. On one hand, her annual visit to check in has become something of a ritual over the years. On the other, she wanted to use this occasion to have me review her destiny framework for the rest of the year and into next.
Miss E, for those who don’t know, is an ordinary white-collar worker who, two years ago, mustered the courage — at my encouragement — to go all-in on building her personal brand in her spare time.
But that was then. The woman who was once just a modest office worker is now a small business owner with full command of her own finances, answerable to no one.
It almost sounds absurd in retrospect: when Miss E worked up the nerve to come find me two years ago, she had just emerged from postnatal confinement — a brand-new mother. What finally pushed her to seek a destiny reading was that she had simply had enough. Enough of holding out her hand. Enough of enduring the cold looks from her husband and in-laws.
I still remember looking over her destiny chart and telling her plainly: your husband, and your in-laws, are not bad people in the traditional sense.
Think about it — your husband is a white-collar worker at a major tech firm, your in-laws are retired from the system. What deep malice could they possibly harbor?
They are simply shortsighted, uncomplicated people who don’t know how to conceal their emotions. For people like that, ingratitude, poor emotional control, and petty scheming aren’t character flaws — they’re just the natural state of ordinary people.
And fundamentally, the situation you’re in comes down to this: as a woman, for a significant stretch of time after giving birth, you lost the ability to contribute economically to the household. That naturally made them feel, on some instinctive level, that you were contributing less.
As for the hardship and exhaustion of having a child — time has a way of erasing all of that. That is the harshest truth.
So I wasn’t going to do what so many others would and recklessly advise you to get a divorce. Because if you haven’t established your own economic value, whether you stay single or find a new relationship, you’ll end up right back in this same predicament.
So what do you do?
Remember this: financial independence is the only backbone a woman can truly rely on. Only sufficient, legitimate wealth (正财) can uphold your dignity and self-respect.
When she heard this, her eyes lit up immediately. After that, it was a gradual process — mapping out a plan together, step by step, explaining the reasoning behind each stage.
Then came two full years of hard-fought battles, throwing everything she had into the fight.
And now?
Her life is far busier than it used to be, yet she’s in far better shape.
On one hand, a steady monthly income of 80,000 to 120,000 yuan means money is no longer a source of anxiety. On the other, what once felt like a chaotic tangle of daily life has become remarkably orderly.
Housework is entirely handled by a full-time housekeeper. Miss E simply sets the standard; the housekeeper delivers everything flawlessly. As for the in-laws’ constant criticisms, and the household conflicts that used to erupt over chores — all of that has quietly faded away.
She even looks back on those old arguments over petty nonsense as almost absurd — two strays brawling over a scrap of meat, cramped and undignified.
Before, every time she needed money from her husband for household expenses or the baby, she’d have to endure his veiled sarcasm and quiet complaints. Over time, it genuinely wore her down — more anxious, less confident by the day.
Now? Her husband comes home every evening actively looking for ways to support her work, just to feel more relevant. Since Miss E’s career took off, the two of them have barely had a real argument. On the rare occasions when Miss E was about to throw some of his old cold words back at him, he’d always choose, wisely, to apologize first and drop it.
In the face of absolute financial leverage, so-called male chauvinism turns out to be surprisingly fragile.
Two years ago, when Miss E had just had her baby, she was consumed with anxiety — lying awake at night, obsessing over laying the groundwork for her child, mentally cycling through tutoring options, unable to sleep.
Now she realizes: all that anxiety came from being too weak back then.
She had no capital, no career, no future — she knew she had nothing of substance to pass on to her child, and that’s why she panicked, feared, and spiraled.
But now? Miss E knows with full confidence that as a mother, she is completely capable — across every dimension — of giving her child a real inheritance and real education.
Because you don’t need to scramble to build up your child’s hand from behind. You yourself are your child’s greatest security.
During our conversation today, Miss E couldn’t help but reflect: it turns out that with enough determination and sheer force of will, a complete reversal is entirely possible in just two years.
It turns out that solid wealth fortune (正财运) really is that important in this life — the very foundation upon which everything else is built.
I smiled, and lit one of the cigars she’d brought: Yes, young lady.
Perhaps you should even thank your husband for being unreliable enough to push you — hard — into a seven-figure annual income.
So many women go their entire lives without understanding that what truly rescues them from hardship is never a marriage, and certainly never a noble benefactor (Gui Ren). So they spend their lives drifting, confused, and entangled — and still end up with their lives in disarray.
What they never realize is that real gold and silver is the only thing that dissolves a thousand hardships.
A woman who earns with dignity and steadily accumulates her own wealth — every problem she encounters in this life will pass like smoke.
Remember these words.
Miss E raised her teacup in reply: Then I owe my deepest thanks to you, Master Chi — for laying out the right path so clearly, and making this outcome possible.