1 — Many couples know each other from their school years, some even developing early crushes and relationships during that time. They know each other inside and out, with clear emotional expectations already established. For those who met after entering the workforce, there is still a deep mutual understanding. Impulsive marriages are extremely rare.
2 — Both sets of parents are solid and dependable — either holding a certain professional position or having built a modest achievement in their own field. They may not be wealthy, but they carry themselves with dignity. This means the couple can avoid ugly financial squabbles in the early years of marriage; no one is fixated on petty gains, and no seeds of resentment are planted from the start.
3 — Neither spouse has serious vices — especially nothing touching gambling, pornography, or drugs — and neither runs in circles with people of poor character. Their lifestyle is relatively healthy: fitness, hiking, fishing, yoga, reading, that sort of thing.
4 — Neither has an extreme personality. Neither has the habit of projecting their anxiety and insecurity onto the other, nor do they frequently lose emotional control, let alone resort to physical aggression or extreme behavior. These kinds of problems are almost always extensions of a troubled family of origin.
5 — Both partners have reached at least a modest middle-class standing in their careers. You won’t find the absurd situation of a couple in their thirties or forties who still have no grasp of growth, planning, or building toward the future. Even if they’re not exceptional, they’re solid contributors to society — combined income and overall circumstances are genuinely decent.
6 — And here’s something that sounds mundane but everyone understands: both are in reasonably good health, and the couple is compatible and harmonious in all respects. This one is easy to overlook, but it matters enormously.