This question is in the eye of the beholder.
In the eyes of a girl who has never seen the world, an upper-tier woman is born that way — born with diamonds, born beautiful, born wealthy, born elegant. She is born with everything perfect.
But in Master Chi’s view, an upper-tier woman is like an aged red wine. Her extraordinary brilliance is something she has distilled within herself. She must pass through layer upon layer of trials and hardships — that is her fortune.
I have seen countless women with excellent foundations take the strong hand fate dealt them and play it disastrously. Intelligence, taste, ambition, talent, refinement — every ace card that should have flourished in your hands ultimately became a discarded piece, wasted away.
Don’t betray yourself like this.
This article is Master Chi’s gift to you on this special holiday. It is bitter, it is cutting, it is painful — but it will surely awaken you.
The Main Text:
Why is it that women with the same life pattern (géjú) and natural gifts always seem to fall just half a breath short of men in capability?
Simply because the blows life deals to men — both in number and in force — far exceed those dealt to women.
This is not to say your life as a woman is smooth sailing, carefree and secure.
You will face setbacks in your career. You will suffer blows in your marriage. You will certainly be troubled by matters of wealth.
But truthfully, compared to the forging that men endure, women generally face one order of magnitude less.
That is why you will find that girls with princess syndrome, and those coddled mama’s boys, are all beings that have been well-protected by their families, their admirers, and the people around them — never having truly witnessed or experienced the harsh beatings society delivers.
Precisely because they have never been beaten down, they naturally cannot see their own shortcomings and weaknesses. They come to believe their willfulness and unreasonableness are costless and perfectly entitled.
This is why the weaker a woman is — the shorter, poorer, plainer, and more broken in career and relationships she is — the more she must learn to push herself.
You need not push yourself to the edge of the abyss, but you must push yourself to the point of facing pain and pressure directly.
Face the reality that you may be unattractive, poor, or both incompetent and unremarkable in looks.
Only by seeing reality clearly can you dig out the root of the problem.
What does a woman fear most?
Truly believing she has no connection with “upper tier.” Choosing to abandon self-improvement simply because she feels her background is ordinary, her looks average, her perception unremarkable.
And what is the result?
A woman with this mindset will not only give up on advancing — she will give up on merely maintaining.
In the end: her figure and her appearance collapse entirely.
Unlike men — a man can be completely indifferent to his appearance, plain-looking yet possessed of tremendous inner power.
But once a woman abandons herself physically, her inner world is guaranteed to collapse and fall apart completely as well.
I have seen countless women with originally excellent life patterns end up in a complete mess, without exception — every single one began with the collapse of their appearance.
How do you save yourself? How do you remedy this?
Never mind that you are a 6 out of 10 today. Even if you are a 5, a 4, a 3, a 2, a 1, or a 0 — you must force yourself to be neat, clean, and presentable.
You may be unattractive, overweight, and utterly unappealing. That is fine. But at least from this moment, you are moving in a better direction.
Do you know why destiny readings for women place such weight on appearance and marriage fortune?
In truth, the women who truly change their destiny through looks and marriage remain few. Do not listen to those who enviously boast about so-and-so who married into a wealthy family, or stumbled into a happy marriage and reversed the downward spiral of their lives.
Rather: your appearance is simply your easiest first step toward sunlight and favorable fortune. Once you take that first step, there is no turning back.
Don’t believe it? Look at how many middle-aged women wear their dejection plainly on their faces — that full sense of “giving up” born from neglect and lack of care.
Appearance reflects the inner heart; the inner heart follows appearance.
A woman who no longer cares about even basic dignity — all other “beauty” is destined to have nothing to do with her.
Beyond this, you must also allow yourself to be slapped hard by life, again and again.
Most girls, slapped once, crumble — crying all the way home, finding themselves “a woman-appropriate job, not too tiring.”
But a rare few, after being slapped once, twice, three times, ten times, twenty times — simply learn to be sharper, shrewder.
And so, they get beaten less and less, and eat more and more.
Walking through the world, how much a woman is truly worth — it needs no self-promotion or flattery from others.
Just sit there. A small glance of the eyes, a sentence from those lips — her rank, her experiences, her background, her class — can be read clear as day.
Take business, for instance. Many women always feel this is a man’s domain — how could they possibly endure the blood, sweat, and exhausting effort it demands?
Of course, they would never admit this, because they take great pride in the banner of “independent woman.”
And take investing. Most women feel they should dabble lightly — understand a little about stocks, know a little about real estate — and consider themselves quite impressive already.
Very, very few women treat these things as the central theme of their lives to master deeply.
But without exception — every woman who does treat these things as her life’s core pursuit cannot possibly live poorly.
Always remember this law: “Anyone who can create substantial wealth also possesses the ability to create everything else.”
By the same logic, why has the sheltered little princess always been unable to match the wild little filly?
Simply because the gap in experience and hard-won knowledge is too vast — natural gifts can no longer bridge it.
The princess’s self-assured charm, elegance, and purity are utterly worthless before the filly’s clear-eyed shrewdness and wit.
So the wild filly may lose early on, but she is destined to win the second half of her life.
And if you happen to be a little princess with a naturally gifted foundation — you need to work even harder to get close to real life and learn to keep your feet on the ground.
I have a strong aversion to a certain type of girl: slightly pretty, slightly charming, with a little talent and ability — who then feels she is unique and stands apart from the crowd.
Remember: women are very easily dragged down by admirers and toxic girlfriends. Their expectations of you are so low that if you are even just a little better than the average woman — truly just a little — words like “independent,” “excellent,” and “self-reliant” get heaped upon you.
Do you know what it means to be praised to death? This is exactly it.
Better to receive criticism from the strong than to hear flattery from the weak. Carve those words into your bones.
A girl with modest natural gifts has only two paths: one is to see through the reality that she is only marginally better than ordinary people; the other is to realize there are countless women out there who are ten thousand times more excellent than herself.
So whenever some girls display complacency and arrogance while having their destiny chart read, I throw a bucket of cold water on them directly: “Your constitution is above average, your gifts are superior — but you are no genius.”
The “evaluations” others give you — I have no interest in hearing them. They are all worthless flattery, not worth a cent.
Let me ask you: have you become the absolute center of a social and professional circle, with various parties’ interests and desires requiring your coordination?
No? Then your self-congratulatory looks and scheming are utterly valueless — essentially nothing, just a meaningless add-on.
Let me ask you: have you, relying entirely on yourself, earned substantial wealth and acquired solid, unassailable properties?
No? Then your self-righteous talent and supposed insight are nothing but arrogance with no practical meaning whatsoever.
So — do not put on airs in front of a man who has truly seen upper-tier women. Whether you are a 6-point decorative vase or a 9-point great beauty of commanding presence — one who has seen the real thing can see through you with a single glance. No second look needed.
Remember: a man’s path to reversal begins with accepting from the start that he will be brutalized like livestock at first, then forges his skills and carves out his own world.
But a woman’s path to reversal has always been to hope for some man to descend from the heavens and rescue her from the fire and flood — with all the prior hardships merely a light, breezy “life experience.”
The difference between the two — taste it yourself.
Closing:
On this holiday that belongs to you, Master Chi wishes to close with a blessing I once gave to a female client:
Your broken marriage, your failed career — none of these are reasons to fear the future.
When you were a little girl, you were too young and tender. Those destined connections and those riches — difficult to hold, and easy to lose.
But now, as a woman, what was once beyond your grasp should now be firmly within your control.
After all, a little girl is always the weak one who gets taken from. A woman is the one who steers her own destiny.
So be grateful to fate for every painful slap it has given you — it was those blows that tempered you from fresh, tender fruit into a mellow, exquisite vintage.
Thank it, for giving you all this bitterness. Thank yourself, for never going down.
Finally, on this holiday that belongs to women — Master Chi does not wish you a bland happiness. I only wish you vigorous growth, dear wild little filly.