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Be a Little Kinder to Yourself

Lately, I’ve grown quite fond of this rhythm — a few short pieces, then a few longer ones. It feels just right. And I think this rhythm will suit you too. Reading with a little ebb and flow is always more comfortable than plowing through long essays several days in a row. Behind this shift, I believe, is something inseparable from the changing spirit of the times. Back in 2016–2021, everyone was charging full speed ahead — sleeves rolled up, eyes fixed on material gain.

Grand Topics: On Geopolitics and the Duty of the Family Leader

Monday — let’s talk about something grand. Note: this article has no answers. It is purely some personal reflections from someone with a modest understanding of world history who has achieved financial freedom. So — read, think, leave a comment. Every step matters. One more thing: every article I write has a target audience. This one is written for the core guiding leader of every family. Meaning: if your parents or spouse are not the kind of people who engage in deep thinking and make decisions about the whole family’s direction, then you need to read this carefully. Every family needs a reliable guiding leader. That person is you.

Some Conversations Have No Answers

A young woman told me: she and her boyfriend had a three-hour phone call going over the specific challenges they might face in marriage. She had prepared a memo in advance. They reached no conclusions. The topics included: how would they share the responsibility of raising children? What specific educational path would they take? If one parent needed to sacrifice their career, whose would it be? I understand her anxiety, and her need to nail everything down before moving forward. She wants to live her life with intention — which is why she wants plans, contingencies, and fallback options.

Two Lessons from a Friend's Remarriage

Recently I got to know someone who’d been divorced, remarried, and now has a child together with his new wife. He walked me through his remarriage experience, and I found it genuinely instructive. One: Divorce is a weak point. So if you want to date and get married, going out and finding someone yourself is easier than waiting to be introduced. He’s an only child from the city — divorced, no kids, highly educated, stable job, income over 300,000 yuan a year. His parents have two properties, he owns two more himself, plus a car worth over 500,000. With credentials like that, people were constantly offering to set him up.

Why Making Money Your #1 Goal Will Keep You Poor

As brothers and sisters to one another, there is one thing we must truly understand. That is this: making big money should not — and does not need to — be the central goal of your life. If you make getting rich your supreme life goal, you will live in misery, and you still won’t get rich. Life is just that ironic. I’ve seen a great many people’s destinies, so I understand clearly the logic behind how life gets better and better.

A Template for Middle-Aged Romance

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For those of you who are dating, let me offer a real-world example. The man: IT director at some company. The woman: mid-level administrator at a school. Both had been married before. He had a daughter with his ex-wife — she was in high school. She had a son in college. After adding each other on WeChat, they exchanged photos and shared the basics about themselves. Good feeling on both sides.

The Ordinary Woman Who Marries Up

Student Question: Hello, Master. I’m a front desk manager. My daily life has a certain polish to it — even in a standard work uniform, I pair it with a refined, fitting look that gives off a calm, composed impression. I also add small accessories when I’m off duty. The work itself is genuinely demanding — handling all kinds of requests, and even complaints. My husband is a handsome, well-off local man. I fell for him the moment we first met. He pursued me relentlessly for nearly a year. My family is from a rural agricultural province — village background, only a vocational college education, with an older sister and a younger brother. Everything I’ve achieved, I’ve had to earn on my own.

Social Atomization and the Architecture of Control

In truth, all the problems we face revolve around a single core issue. Every problem we encounter today, the West encountered first. Social atomization pulls individuals out of their original stable, low-cost structures. Once extracted, these individuals — whether materially or spiritually — are left helpless, without foundation or support. This state of acute instability inevitably drives people to do two things: 1. seize resources through overconsumption, and 2. squander resources in their spending. Both of these accelerate the intensification of social division of labor, and more importantly, the rapid concentration of social wealth.

The Simpler You Are, The More Powerful You Become

Frankly speaking, I am myself a living, breathing example of someone who “drew close to wealth and destiny, and in doing so, obtained it.” So I speak on today’s topic with particular authority. Those familiar with me know that my family background was genuinely favorable — though it had its share of turbulence, it afforded me the rare fortune, from a very young age, to grow up alongside a circle of extraordinary figures.

On Choosing a Partner: Why 'No Weak Points' Is the Wrong Standard

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Student Question Hello Master, what is your view on the idea of seeking a partner who has no weaknesses across all areas? Master Chi’s Response Matching partners entirely by data metrics is genuinely unscientific. Why insist on someone with no weak points in every area? No weak points means no exceptional strengths either. Going forward, people will likely gravitate toward free-choice courtship. As social networking platforms continue to mature, more people will use them to communicate and filter on their own terms. Inner compatibility simply cannot be matched through simplistic data points.