Author: Commander of the Night Watch
Preface
This is a man-made countercyclical distortion. Without fundamental reform, a cliff-edge demographic collapse is inevitable — one that will disrupt numerous industries, eliminate countless jobs, and alter the destinies of millions. The cyclical continuity of human civilization cannot be stopped, but institutional reform is achievable. And the first obstacle any reform must overcome is the weight of ingrained beliefs.
As long as the existing marriage institution remains intact, a cliff-edge demographic collapse cannot be avoided. Yes, it will generate profound social problems and reshape the futures of countless industries and individuals. But at this stage, no one has the courage to reach for the key that could actually solve the problem.
In any communication aimed at persuasion, you must find the emotional opening in the other person — touch them at the heart. Mutual emotional resonance is the foundation; only then will they truly listen, and only then will they be convinced.
To persuade someone, there is nothing beyond moving them with feeling and reasoning with them through logic — but feeling must come before logic, for logic can only enter a heart that has already been opened. This is what it means to truly connect.
I’ve been in North America for a while recently, and since it’s been many years since my last extended stay, I’ve reconnected with many old friends and caught up on the world of overseas Chinese communities.
On top of that — for reasons everyone knows — emigration has become a hot topic again in China, both last year and this year. Every day, readers in my community ask me: at this particular moment in time, should they go out and see a new world?
Some say: “Better to marry well than to work hard” is a distorted idea, and we shouldn’t be promoting hypergamy for women.
The first part, I agree with: whoever said doing well in your career and marrying well are mutually exclusive? Both are fine.
“Well” is something quantifiable. If you earn a million a year versus marrying someone worth ten million — which is better? Everyone has their own values.
Student Question
Hello, Master. What’s your take on the gold-digger phenomenon? And as a woman, how does one develop a strong winner’s mindset?
Master Chi’s Response
Honestly, the gold-digger lane is already way too crowded.
I’d rather my female followers not squeeze themselves down that narrow alley.
Most people simply don’t have what it takes — neither the looks nor the skills — to pull it off. And chasing that path ends up derailing your normal relationship prospects and scaring off the genuinely solid, reliable men.
It’s only on Friday evenings like this that I have any free time to write and share more “informal” articles. My habit on regular workdays is to stay focused on sharing various insights on ascending wisdom and esoteric knowledge. This week has been a bit busy, so I’ve written a little less — but next week things will return to normal.
Let me start with the reason I’m writing this.
I once looked at the age distribution of my readers on the backend, and I was genuinely delighted — the overwhelming majority fall between 26 and 46.
This is, without question, the most golden twenty years of a person’s life.
The peak of physical strength, mental energy, ambition, and drive — all converging at once.
Many of life’s most important goals — if you don’t set them and pursue them now, the opportunity simply won’t come around again.
Someone asked me: why do my articles aimed at waking women up always have such aggressive titles?
Simple. Because I genuinely want the well-behaved, compliant girls to turn back and not click through to read articles that are far beyond their current worldview. There’s no need.
Well-behaved girls should indulge in romance and sentimentality — they have no business blindly chasing ambition. Just like a herbivore should never force itself to grow the fangs and claws of a predator.
Modern marriage is weighed down by too many shackles. The expectations we place on each other are simply too high.
In truth, we must first become a 100-point version of ourselves — then pursue a 70-point marriage.
A 70-point marriage, by definition, has both arguments and unspoken understanding. There are moments of irritation and moments of deep affection, of helping each other through difficulty. That is a real marriage with genuine human warmth.
Speaking to the present moment — I think marrying a little later is perfectly fine. People today are more self-focused. By a certain age, you become more mature and tolerant. Your financial situation is likely stronger too.
I also believe that parents who leave no material foundation for their children — those who default to “children will find their own way” — are fundamentally irresponsible.
Unless you’re born into wealth or political privilege, building your material foundation requires time and real effort.