The point of this article lies neither in the question nor in the answer — it lies in your own reflection.
So please, after reading this, leave a comment sharing your advice for the person asking the question. The words may be written for someone else, but the clarity of thought you develop in writing them will benefit you.
Why is this article so special that Master Chi specifically invites you to join the discussion? Because its core message is truly timeless — enough to wake up 90% of the women out there who have been dragged down and wounded by their families.
After years of analyzing destiny charts (BaZi) for members of elite circles, one thing has become increasingly clear to me: anyone who achieves sustained success has, at the level of the great Dao (the Way), consistently done many things right.
This becomes especially evident when you have traced the paths of one billionaire after another, then compared them against the winding roads walked by those whose fortunes have not gone well.
This piece is a timeless classic from Master Chi’s earlier writings on marriage. By popular reader request, it is republished today — old wisdom, fresh eyes.
Never assume that every person in this world deserves to have a family. In Master Chi’s view, at least 30% of people on this earth are simply not worthy of marriage. These individuals are meant to grow old alone — they have no business forming a family, and certainly no right to harm and waste the lives of the innocent souls who trusted them.
Some questions are so well-crafted that they spark genuine insight in the answer.
This article captures precisely what every ordinary woman born into humble circumstances quietly wonders: “As a plain woman with no noble benefactor (Gui Ren) to guide me, what exactly should I be doing?”
So if you are a woman, I hope you will read this carefully and let it truly sink in.
Trust me — once you genuinely understand it, you will grasp why most women spend their entire lives striving, yet never manage to turn their fate around.
A friend once put an interesting question to me: “Master Chi, you’ve seen a great deal and you understand destiny reading — tell me, what is the one thing in this world that harms women most?”
I hesitated for a moment, unsure how to answer.
Various answers surfaced in my mind — toxic men, poverty, a broken family of origin — and while they all sounded plausible, none of them felt like they’d struck the true root of the disease.
Just a few days ago, I needed to keep some important documents close at hand, so I made a special trip back to an old apartment I own in central Shanghai to retrieve them. But once I had what I came for and walked downstairs, I found myself in an awkward situation — a long white warning tape had been stretched across the entrance. I asked around and got my answer: quarantine lockdown, 48 hours, no one in or out.
A friend once raised this question with me: Master Chi, though your articles are profound and wide-ranging, that very depth limits their reach — most ordinary people simply can’t follow them. Have you ever considered writing in a more accessible, down-to-earth style?
My answer: I’ve never once considered going in that direction, because the people I serve are, by nature, a select few — the elite, and those strivers willing to quiet their minds, absorb high-quality thinking, and reshape their own destinies.
On this special occasion, no gift is more meaningful than a substantial piece of wisdom.
The Article:
In my online community (知识星球), Master Chi has always held to one clear principle: I am constantly urging women to step free from the pull of “household affairs.” The reason is simple. Family is sometimes a contradictory thing. It gives you shelter, warmth, comfort, and security — yes. But at the same time, it makes you willingly pour everything into your loved ones. And those very people who benefit from your sacrifices so often fail to see what you’ve given. No matter how much you sacrifice. No matter how completely you drain your youth and the finest years of your life.
Over the years, many female readers have come to me with the same question: “Master, what does a woman look like at her most beautiful?”
Honestly, I’ve never quite known how to answer it. My own standards for female beauty are fundamentally at odds with the world’s crass fixation on physical appearance.
My logic is simple: looking beautiful is not true beauty. A beautiful life, beautiful wealth, a beautiful marriage and family — that is great beauty.
This is a repost of a classic article. Though it centers on family, it contains a wealth of essential insights for those seeking to elevate themselves — well worth bookmarking and reading carefully.
Why does a person need to broaden their knowledge throughout their lifetime? Because there are far too many things in this world that only truly register in your heart once you have witnessed them with your own eyes — and from that recognition, you can set meaningful goals and strategies for your own life.