Tonight being a weekend, let me share some casual thoughts.
Pay attention — these next couple of years are going to be a concentrated high-risk period for the middle class to fall. Too many interlocking problems are primed to blow up at once.
The typical sequence goes like this: one spouse gets laid off, takes a short break, then gets restless and wants to try something new. And not some low-cost side hustle either — they want to open a shop, make some investments, that sort of thing.
Tonight’s article, I’m afraid, is not suitable reading for ordinary women. Because they most likely lack the discernment and capacity to absorb what follows. This article is for serious women — women who have genuine goals for themselves and who firmly believe they can keep rising. And such women carry within them an exceptionally strong spirituality and resilience. Somewhere deep inside, they know: my life can still be better. I just don’t yet know how. If that feeling resonates with you, then please keep reading.
The most terrifying thing in a marriage isn’t simple betrayal or letting someone down.
It’s this: in the heat of an argument, the person you once loved and trusted with everything — they reach into the most private, secret, vulnerable corners of who you are, and use those as weapons against you.
That’s when you realize that in their eyes, you — and everything you ever gave — amounted to something pitiful and worthless all along.
Some of you have left messages saying you feel regret about 2024 — that despite fighting hard the entire year, the gains were few, and by year’s end your spirits have sunk low.
You don’t need to carry that weight. A person’s legacy is never built in one or two years — let alone in an environment as clearly frigid as 2024 has been.
The people I interact with daily in my private circles include no shortage of accomplished, formidable individuals. And this year? Every last one of them has been lying low, biding their time — coiled like dragons, crouching like tigers.
Last night, while analyzing the destiny framework (格局) of one of my readers, I said something to her: A woman cannot go through life without suffering — because much of your growth comes through pain and hardship.
But you cannot keep suffering the same pain over and over again. Because that only proves you haven’t figured things out yet.
I know this sounds cold-blooded. But I say it with a sense of resignation.
Let me talk about something casually, drawing from a recent hit reality show and a few real cases I’ve come across.
Milla is one of my longest-standing readers — she’s been following me for six years now.
I still remember who she was back then: completely absorbed in career and wealth, coming to me every year for a destiny framework (格局) reading with her eyes fixed squarely on professional prospects.
You see, many people say that before entering into marriage, you should evaluate your potential partner across every dimension — family background, parents, character, conduct, capability, intimacy compatibility, shared values, and so on and so forth.
All of the above genuinely matter. If someone scores high on every single one of them, of course that’s ideal.
But here’s the thing.
I — Master Chi — have helped so many couples step into marriage, guided so many men and women in making excellent matches, and seen them through the adjustment period to build stable, lasting families.
These past couple of days I went along with the crowd and watched a couple of episodes of Goodbye, My Love.
Many small thoughts came to mind. I’ve distilled them into the observations below. But the biggest takeaway is something I’ve said before: In this lifetime, the one mistake you absolutely cannot afford to make is choosing the wrong marriage partner.
Unlike other decisions where there’s room to course-correct, marrying the wrong person doesn’t cost you just a few short years — it rewrites your entire life story. And more often than not, it rewrites it as a tragedy.
Before you know it, year-end is approaching again. This time of year, my inbox always fills up with messages from readers asking how to get through the coming stretch.
I’ve taken the time to carefully analyze this — the people who struggle through the year-end and find themselves stuck deep in life’s quicksand — what fatal mistakes did they actually make to end up where they are?
What I found confirmed that old saying: “If you don’t court disaster, disaster won’t find you.” Nearly every case came down to one or more of the following reasons.
These past couple of days have been quite busy — so busy that I haven’t even had the time to write a proper mid-length piece. Honestly, it’s a bit helpless. On one side, business matters need coordinating; on the other, a friend’s real-world troubles need my support. There’s no way around it — that’s just life.
But in those stolen moments between obligations, a few small reflections managed to surface.