1 - The reason so many people repeat a life of grinding hardship their entire lives comes down to one thing they’ve never understood from beginning to end: big money isn’t something you “earn.” When your abilities reach a certain level and you use those abilities to sit at the right table, you receive your share of what’s on that table.
What I just said is essentially a direct revelation of the wealth-building secret behind 99.9999% of high-net-worth individuals on this earth — but I’ll bet that very few people who read it will truly understand it.
Before you know it, year-end is approaching again. This time of year, my inbox always fills up with messages from readers asking how to get through the coming stretch.
I’ve taken the time to carefully analyze this — the people who struggle through the year-end and find themselves stuck deep in life’s quicksand — what fatal mistakes did they actually make to end up where they are?
What I found confirmed that old saying: “If you don’t court disaster, disaster won’t find you.” Nearly every case came down to one or more of the following reasons.
Simply lecturing about “human nature” carries no real weight of warning. Stories, on the other hand, reach somewhere deeper — so let me tell you a few.
Jealousy
There was a young woman named Xiaohua. After graduation, she chose to stay in her hometown rather than leave, living with her parents and making handcrafted goods. Her income wasn’t high, but she brought in five or six thousand a month — more than enough for a comfortable life back home.
These past couple of days have been quite busy — so busy that I haven’t even had the time to write a proper mid-length piece. Honestly, it’s a bit helpless. On one side, business matters need coordinating; on the other, a friend’s real-world troubles need my support. There’s no way around it — that’s just life.
But in those stolen moments between obligations, a few small reflections managed to surface.
This afternoon, despite my repeated polite refusals, Miss E showed up anyway — two boxes of hairy crabs and a box of Cohiba cigars in hand. On one hand, her annual visit to check in has become something of a ritual over the years. On the other, she wanted to use this occasion to have me review her destiny framework for the rest of the year and into next.
Miss E, for those who don’t know, is an ordinary white-collar worker who, two years ago, mustered the courage — at my encouragement — to go all-in on building her personal brand in her spare time.
Still sharp and straight to the point — no rambling, no fluff. And the fifth point at the end is the most important awakening of all.
1 — The brutal truth: the women who win in the end are the ones who can hold their composure.
This means that even when the greatest challenges arrive, as long as you can steady your emotions — suppress the impulse of pure feeling, begin analyzing the problem rationally step by step, and calmly work through it — 99% of life’s hardships will not be able to break you.
Shallow theory is worthless. What has value is the blood-written knowledge forged through real combat.
The following points — if you can truly grasp even one of them, you’ll surpass so-called “professionals” with decades of experience. But if you can’t grasp a single one, then honestly, you have no business sitting at this table.
1 — On the Herd
What truly ignites the herd’s desire isn’t winning. Win right away, and they chalk it up to luck — they’ll actually take their profits and walk.
Let me get straight to the point. There’s a question I’ve been wanting to ask certain readers for a long time — one that cuts right to the bone: You’re at this age already. Have you ever seriously asked yourself why, despite being reasonably hardworking and diligent, you keep spinning your wheels without results?
I’m not asking this to mock or belittle you. I want to use this quiet evening at the tail end of the holiday to speak plainly about something that matters.
These past couple of days were supposed to be a long holiday, but I haven’t had a moment’s rest. I genuinely hoped to settle down and recharge — then the sharp market surge just before the break instantly ignited everyone’s emotions.
So friends from all corners started pulling me in every direction: dinner here, tea gathering there. And once I arrived, everyone hoped I’d say a few words.
This put me in a somewhat awkward position, because many of the guests were quite senior figures. They know my approach runs deep, so they all wanted to hear my thoughts.
If what I’m about to say doesn’t quite land with you yet, don’t worry about it. Because someday — after you’ve lived through enough of life’s twists and turns — you’ll have a quiet moment, perhaps late at night, when it suddenly all makes sense.
The highest wisdom a person can achieve in this lifetime isn’t making a breathtaking fortune at some point in time.
It’s through years of steady diligence and grounded practicality — giving yourself and your family a calm, dignified life. Not extravagant wealth, but far removed from the indignity of poverty.