Last night, while analyzing the destiny framework (格局) of one of my readers, I said something to her: A woman cannot go through life without suffering — because much of your growth comes through pain and hardship.
But you cannot keep suffering the same pain over and over again. Because that only proves you haven’t figured things out yet.
I know this sounds cold-blooded. But I say it with a sense of resignation.
Not long ago, a private bank invited me to lead a small, closed-door sharing session for their most important clients — their top-tier high-net-worth customers in the region.
The moment I walked in, I realized that nearly half the faces in the room were familiar — people I’d already met through other circles and events.
So I tossed the script and spoke freely. With people I know well, I only ever say the honest things that cut deep.
These past few years, we have truly experienced more than our share of upheaval.
What comes next? Though we hold onto optimism, the path forward remains a mystery.
And so, I’m often asked by friends: should we seize this moment and take a bold plunge — in investments, startups, or business ventures?
My answer is unequivocal: when the weather keeps shifting between sun and storm, stay away from the open sea.
Let me talk about something casually, drawing from a recent hit reality show and a few real cases I’ve come across.
Milla is one of my longest-standing readers — she’s been following me for six years now.
I still remember who she was back then: completely absorbed in career and wealth, coming to me every year for a destiny framework (格局) reading with her eyes fixed squarely on professional prospects.
When all is said and done, the root of your problem is this: you have too few “core pillars” in your life — and so they cannot bear the weight of your current existence. That is why you feel crushed by pressure at every turn.
Think about it. If your entire life consists of nothing more than a low-paying job and a partner who does nothing but drain your energy and take your value — then your life will only grow darker with each passing year. The smallest setback will push your emotions and your finances to the brink of collapse.
The life attitude most likely to break things open is absolutely not spending your days fixating on trivial matters — then sitting alone sighing endlessly, tossing and turning in your own head.
That’s just how life works. The more you let emotions drag you down, the slower and duller your actions become.
I’ve seen far too many people who love to call themselves smart — thinking deeply, thinking carefully about everything.
These past couple of years, we’ve witnessed more than enough of life’s joys and sorrows.
If I’ve come to understand anything from all of it, it boils down to one simple truth: cherish your blessings to find lasting joy; modest contentment surpasses all.
If you quiet your mind and take stock of everything that has happened around you these years, you’ll find that most people have had it genuinely hard.
You see, many people say that before entering into marriage, you should evaluate your potential partner across every dimension — family background, parents, character, conduct, capability, intimacy compatibility, shared values, and so on and so forth.
All of the above genuinely matter. If someone scores high on every single one of them, of course that’s ideal.
But here’s the thing.
I — Master Chi — have helped so many couples step into marriage, guided so many men and women in making excellent matches, and seen them through the adjustment period to build stable, lasting families.
I have an important dinner tonight, so let me just share a few thoughts: more often than not, food opens your mind far more than experience does.
Especially once you’ve grown up eating your hometown cooking and then start spending a little of your leisure time genuinely exploring cuisines from every corner of the country and around the world — you begin to realize just how much beauty exists in this life that can only be slowly absorbed through the act of tasting.
Only after truly experiencing the finality of life and death do we realize that all worldly desires and material cravings weigh nothing — lighter than a feather — compared to health and living well.
When you’re out and about, remember: don’t keep your eyes glued to your phone. Whether you’re in a crowd or walking down a back alley, take a moment to scan your surroundings as you go.
In everyday life, don’t get drawn into unnecessary conflicts. Mind your own business, don’t speak harsh words, and if you come across someone who is visibly on edge or highly agitated — avoid them if you can.