Today, a follower told me she’s someone who lacks inner strength.
For example: she’s always plagued by self-doubt, feeling like she doesn’t deserve good things. Her willpower is weak, she has little conviction of her own, and she’s easily swayed by the world around her.
I recommended a method for her: building positive self-talk.
Here’s how to do it.
Say one day you’re caught in a spiral of overthinking, with a heavy feeling stuck in your chest. Quickly write down all the chaotic thoughts swirling in your head.
You might write things like, “It’s all my fault! I messed up again!” — dark, negative thoughts you just can’t seem to shake loose.
Then, start questioning those negative thoughts. Does making one mistake mean I’m incapable? And who exactly decided I’m no good? Is that a fact — or is it a negative emotion, or just the noise of other people’s opinions?
Next, replace those negative thoughts with positive or neutral ones.
For example: “I really don’t deserve any of this… no wonder things went wrong…” → Replace with: “I’ve worked hard for years. Everything I have, I’ve earned.”
Or: “Nobody likes me. I’m such a failure.” → Replace with: “I still have good friends by my side. And there are plenty of people who would love to have the life I have right now.”
You can even write down these positive, affirming statements and set them as your phone wallpaper. Every time a negative thought creeps in, it will immediately remind you to come back to positive self-talk.
Build this into a habit, and you will become resilient — full of genuine strength.