This article is pure and direct — every so often, I sit down and distill these essential clarity points for women.
Fortunately, the vast majority of my female readers are sharp-minded women with clear heads and a broad perspective on life. And every article I write is, in truth, written for perceptive, intelligent women to begin with.
So for the core content, I can just say it straight — no need to walk through it point by point in tedious detail. When smart people talk, you don’t need to spell everything out. You just know.
For readers who find this difficult to follow: you may still be at a different level than my long-time readers. Go back and read the earlier articles — many things will click on their own.
No more preamble. Let’s get into it.
1. Under today’s rules of the game, a woman who knows how to do the work will always fall short of a woman who knows how to work people.
You’ll understand this eventually. Most of the time, the reason you receive appreciation and favor isn’t because of how capable you are — it’s because you make the people above you feel genuinely at ease.
Every person, no matter how high they sit, is still human. They have emotional needs. The clever woman is like a needle: she finds the precise angle, drives it in with accuracy and force, and captures exactly what the people above her desire — until they completely regard her as “one of their own.”
The type I feel most sorry for is the woman who only knows how to grind away at her work. She arrives at thirty or forty, worn down and hollow, coming to me to read her destiny chart in search of a noble benefactor (Gui Ren). She asks: “I’ve worked so hard — why do the people above me still not see me?”
My answer is always one sentence that cuts straight to the point: “Your hard work benefited the company and the organization. But what has your specific supervisor personally gained from you?” Those who understand this will immediately feel the full weight of that question.
2. I’m sorry — youth is simply not capital, and hardship is absolutely not wealth. Women who spend their middle years in poverty and struggle rarely turn their lives around.
Your value will never increase by a single point just because you’re young or because you’ve suffered. Your real capital is made of exactly two things: your ability to solve problems, and your social and emotional intelligence. Together, those two constitute your worth.
So stop spending your days recounting how difficult your younger years were, how much you endured. If you went through so much hardship and still didn’t transform that pain into nourishment for growth — that simply means your capacity for insight is low. Nothing more.
Sharp words, true meaning. I’ve always spoken plainly.
3. Unless you have elders with significant social standing to vet your choices, never allow yourself to be seduced — when you’re too young — by a man who is skilled at providing emotional value. Never impulsively step into marriage.
Nearly every woman who has come to me for a destiny chart reading because of an unhappy marriage has made this exact mistake: she failed to recognize the fundamental truth that marriage is an alliance of strength.
4. A woman stuck in scarcity is almost invariably a slave to her own emotions — jealousy, fear, anxiety, timidity. The slightest ripple in her inner world is enough to freeze her in place, unable to move forward in her own life.
Even when women like this come to me for a destiny chart reading, I turn away at least a third of them outright. Because even if I hand them an absolutely clear blueprint for their lives — guiding them year by year on exactly what to work toward — they’ll cycle through bursts of anxiety, then retreat back into chronic paralysis. Their capacity for execution is extremely poor.
5. A woman’s true strength comes from evolving out of a “dependency mindset” into a “self-reliance mindset.” Just taking that single step will instantly open your path forward in ways you can’t imagine.
It’s actually simple: stop hoping that anyone will become your savior. Stop fantasizing that love or a noble benefactor will rescue you from an ordinary life and solve all your problems in one stroke.
Stop dreaming. Engrave these words into your mind: “In this life, at any moment, under any circumstance, the only one I can ever truly rely on is myself.” One day, this will hit you like a flash of lightning.
6. As long as it’s legal and doesn’t cross ethical lines, you should explore every possible way to make money.
There’s a kind of woman who is destined for a poverty mindset at her very core. She’s an ordinary office worker, but she thinks extraordinarily highly of herself. Her free time is consumed by consumerism. She makes no deliberate investments, refuses to put in effort for small earnings, and considers small money beneath her — too exhausting, too much trouble.
Ask her about it, and she’ll say small earnings aren’t worth the effort — she’d rather spend her evenings at the mall, watching dramas, and gossiping.
I’ll say just this one thing, and whether you absorb it depends entirely on your own capacity for insight: every great fortune began as small money. Only by learning how to earn small money will you gradually develop the foundation to figure out medium money, then large money.
That’s as clear as I can put it.
7. Your circle matters. Enormously. More than almost anything else.
Almost every female role model worth naming — if you look carefully — will have gone through a phase between the ages of 25 and 35 where she quietly endured, made herself small, and kept a low profile.
Note carefully: “keeping a low profile and making herself small” does not mean groveling before the powerful. It means she reined in her temperament, concentrated all her energy on cultivating a handful of noble benefactors she judged worthy of her investment, and provided emotional value to them consistently and without fail.
Why? For one reason only: to earn the chance to cross tiers and enter a higher-level circle. Even if that chance only meant being a junior tagalong in a more elevated world — it was still worth it.
Is it worth it? That’s for you to judge. Here’s my analogy: when a grass-eating animal evolves into a predator — even if you’re just a small snake — you can send an elephant scrambling in retreat.
And consider this: a predator absorbs dozens of times more energy from a single meal than a herbivore consumes. Do you understand what I’m pointing at?
8. This final section is the most important thing I’m saying today. Carry it with you.
From a biological standpoint, women tend toward emotional sensitivity by nature. And that emotional nature means you can easily be driven by the swings of your feelings into actions that are, in reality, completely meaningless.
For example: spiraling into internal conflict because a family member or close friend dismissed you. Losing confidence because of your appearance. Giving up on yourself because your life seems ordinary.
And then spending your days turning these things over and over — obsessing over trivial, secondary contradictions.
This is precisely why, when I conduct destiny chart readings, I find it most draining to hear about petty romantic dramas, girlhood anxieties, and the small noise of everyday life.
Once a person’s energy is scattered by secondary contradictions, it becomes nearly impossible to concentrate on resolving the primary ones.
To every woman who comes to me for a destiny chart reading, I say this upfront: our goal in this reading is to resolve your primary contradictions.
How old are you right now, and what is the best possible marriage alliance you can realistically pursue?
What advantages can he bring to your life?
How should you conduct yourself in this relationship?
When is the right timing?
What wealth fortune do you have that you don’t yet know about?
What abilities do you need to develop before you can access that wealth fortune?
Once you have those abilities, what kind of noble benefactor will recognize your value?
What state of being should you cultivate in order to earn a noble benefactor’s favor?
Which friends and connections should you cut ties with immediately?
How should you manage the wealth you’ve worked so hard to accumulate?
Which areas of daily life are genuinely worth your time and energy?
I’ve never been one for unnecessary words. I prize clarity, directness, and purpose. My aim is for you to leave with complete understanding — and to have a genuine breakthrough.
Let me state this one more time: when I conduct a reading, I am not here to chat with you. I am here to give recommendations based on your destiny chart, and the goal is to prescribe the right remedy for what ails you.
Whatever issues your destiny chart reveals, I will tell you plainly. My words may not always be comfortable to hear — but that also means I hide nothing from you.
Please make sure you’ve done the necessary psychological preparation before you commit to a reading.
Only then can I help you — based on what the chart shows — to untangle and resolve every primary contradiction standing in the way of your life.