I realized long ago that enlightening women is far harder than enlightening men.
Not because women are naturally less intelligent — many of my closest friends are exceptionally brilliant women who don’t just match men but often surpass them in a dozen ways.
So why do so many women still fall behind?
The answer lies in the long process of growing up. The worldview they absorb from their social circles and families is saturated with “weak-mindset thinking.”
Weak-mindset thinking means a head full of blame narratives, savior fantasies, pure emotionalism, and a passive “wait and depend on others” mentality.
Once these patterns take root, a person naturally stops working on herself — stops refining her abilities — and the result is falling further and further behind in overall capability.
This is also why, whenever I share insights, I tilt slightly more toward women. Behind that preference is a genuine hope that my sisters can take hold of their own destiny — more firmly, more stably.
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Among all the abilities you possess as a woman, the ability to earn money is always the most fundamental. Just as a skyscraper may dazzle with its gleam, it’s the steel skeleton beneath that forms the eternal foundation.
Your earning power is the foundation of your destiny.
Because nothing in this world more accurately reveals your true capabilities than your ability to earn — it reflects your intelligence, your courage, your character, your judgment, and your attention to detail.
That’s why whenever a young woman comes to me, anxious over some trivial romance or minor life drama, asking me to read her destiny chart (命盘), I always begin by searching for her wealth fortune (财运). That’s where I look for the real breakthrough in her life.
The logic is the same as it is for men: a woman too must first build a steady stream of income before her life can truly stabilize.
Because when you can uncover the wealth hidden within your own destiny, you naturally seize full control of the steering wheel of your life — and those so-called romance disappointments and everyday annoyances become non-issues.
Bad relationship? Leave and find better. Once you’re earning well, the circle of people around you naturally upgrades — the quality and caliber of potential partners rises across the board.
Life full of petty hassles? Hire help. Those draining little chores are nothing more than a modest monthly expense away from disappearing entirely.
And if you’re smart enough, you’ll have an epiphany: wealth is the most solid stepping stone in your life. Every increment of wealth precisely lifts your social circle, the quality of people you attract, and your comfort in life — all in perfect lockstep.
So money isn’t just the backbone of a man’s confidence. It’s the very lifeline of a woman’s destiny.
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A woman’s true caliber has nothing to do with whether she’s skilled at underhanded moves or stabbing people in the back — it’s measured by her ability to turn enemies into allies and integrate her network.
I often observe low-tier women’s social circles where discussions revolve entirely around “how to get revenge” and “how to publicly humiliate rivals.” Then they sharpen these toxic skills and unleash them on colleagues, superiors, friends, and husbands. It’s genuinely beyond foolish.
Remember: for the petty, toxic people and situations you encounter in life, the best response is always to treat them like garbage at a market stall — not only should you not get entangled with them, you should distance yourself early.
Even glancing their way twice counts as a loss for you.
The right approach is the opposite. You should understand an iron law: the lower the caliber of the people and situations you’re dealing with, the more you should use coaxing and enticement to manage them. Use promises and sweet words to turn them into your pawns.
Then, without creating enemies, accomplish your own goals, step out of the pit, and level up — never to deal with them again.
Women who think this way earn my genuine respect. Because their thinking is clear, they also escape traps and sidestep disasters with unusual speed in daily life.
Unlike some foolish women who roll around in the mud wrestling over a pointless burst of temper — only to come out smelling like the swamp they dove into.
What do they gain? Honestly, I have no idea.
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There’s a type of woman I find genuinely frustrating: the kind who drifts aimlessly without any overarching goal, who has never truly poured her heart into anything, yet loves to dramatize herself — inflating stories of how hard and diligently she works — while endlessly complaining that fate is unfair and the heavens are blind.
Then there’s the type I deeply admire: the kind who locks onto a direction and pursues it relentlessly, who carves through mountains and fills rivers without complaint, who — in order to reach her goal — is willing to humble herself and keep learning from those ahead of her. And when she succeeds, she doesn’t boast. She quietly moves on to the next step.
I genuinely hope you can become the latter. Because that kind of woman not only gets things done more efficiently — she’s also far more likely to attract the favor of noble benefactors (贵人, Gui Ren) and the right fortune cycles.
There’s a brutal unspoken rule behind all of this: people who truly get things done deeply love moving forward with their own kind. They know that only kindred spirits are truly reliable and steady — the ones who can genuinely support each other.
And their sharp perception lets them identify at a glance who is a real kindred spirit and who is merely pretending. Who deserves a genuine opportunity, and who deserves only hollow flattery — that much goes without saying.
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A truly intelligent woman can hold two roles simultaneously: the chess player and the chess piece. And she can navigate every direction with grace.
Being the chess player means knowing how to uncover hidden opportunities within your network — nudging, encouraging, even persuading others to move forward on something that benefits you.
Being the chess piece means knowing how to present your own value so that others accept and appreciate you, bring you along for good opportunities, and never feel put off or threatened by you.
Both roles demand tremendous emotional intelligence and social skill. But they are essential lessons for any woman who wants to earn serious money — because some women may not have strong innate wealth fortune (财运), yet they have exceptional friendship luck and noble benefactor fortune (贵人运, Gui Ren Yun). If that’s your chart, this is precisely where you must put in the work.
Following the right people is also a brilliant shortcut.
It’s like making a movie. Some people become huge stars not because their acting is extraordinary, but because they’re in the right circle, standing in the right spot.
Of course, all of this rests on one critical prerequisite: you must know how to read the room.
What does that actually mean? It’s not being a chaotic, gossipy troublemaker — a woman in her thirties or forties acting like a neighborhood busybody, thinking that being loud and blabbing about everything is a display of social skill.
Truly knowing how to read the room means giving people abundant emotional value: consistently affirming, praising, and encouraging them so they feel warmly embraced — and every compliment you give lands as genuine and specific, not hollow.
At the same time, your conduct is never sycophantic. You are composed, gracious, and appropriate. When someone does you a favor, you don’t gush. When they don’t, you don’t sulk. Your emotions stay steady.
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Finally, there’s one more thing I must tell you: if you grew up in a family that lacked love, or if you’ve been hurt in relationships, you must learn to love yourself.
Loving yourself means no longer waiting for others to give you love — and certainly not sacrificing yourself in humiliation just to earn it.
Because what we have never truly received, we tend to crave most desperately.
This is why you often see women who are clearly intelligent — levelheaded and sharp in everyday life — yet at a critical moment, get deceived and exploited by toxic men, damaging friends, or manipulative women in their circle.
Honestly? Pitiable and tragic in equal measure.
So you, above all, must learn to reserve your time and energy for yourself. Learn to see yourself as a plant — and with carefully chosen water and nourishment, let yourself grow more lush and beautiful with each passing day.