Many people ask how to meet noble benefactors (Gui Ren). Let me give you the general picture.
First, if a powerful person notices you, beyond your excellent qualities or skills, the main reason is that you remind them of their younger self. They sense a similarity in temperament and disposition — a kind of inexplicable closeness, what people call natural eye chemistry.
Second, you know how to show genuine gratitude. Your words reach their heart, and you deliver results beautifully. When a noble benefactor gives you a small opportunity to test your capabilities, you give it everything you have, you don’t seek credit, and you’re not fixated purely on personal gain — you leave the glory for your benefactor. They see that you have a broad life pattern (格局), that you understand unspoken rules and know your place. Over time, they’ll start introducing you to their inner circle.
Many people lose patience. They feel they’ve already been proactive enough in seeking upward connections, yet still get the cold shoulder. But you can’t latch onto someone powerful just by flattering them. If your intentions aren’t pure, people will see right through it — and you’ll come across as nothing but hungry and graceless.