You see, many people say that before entering into marriage, you should evaluate your potential partner across every dimension — family background, parents, character, conduct, capability, intimacy compatibility, shared values, and so on and so forth.
All of the above genuinely matter. If someone scores high on every single one of them, of course that’s ideal.
But here’s the thing.
I — Master Chi — have helped so many couples step into marriage, guided so many men and women in making excellent matches, and seen them through the adjustment period to build stable, lasting families.
And it all comes down to one core logic: both parties must understand that the person standing before you is absolutely not perfect. They carry countless flaws — too many to name, and too stubborn to fully fix.
But once both of you have decided to enter this marriage, you must remember this: you are each unlimited stakeholders in this partnership.
Your emotions, your conflicts, your clashes — none of these are legitimate reasons to let distance grow between you.
On the contrary, you should approach your life like business partners — learning to handle every challenge you face with reason and pragmatism.
Your shared enemy is the problem itself, not each other.
So every problem must be faced together. Set aside the anger and the grudges. Handle things with discipline and thoroughness, down to the last detail — no shortcuts, no half-measures.
Grasp this, and I promise you: not only will the marriage last, but both of you will grow tremendously, and this family will produce results far beyond what either of you could achieve alone — 1+1 greater than 10.
In short — remember this above all else: before you get swept away by someone’s personality, looks, wealth, intelligence, or values, ask yourself one question first: Is this person truly a reliable lifelong partner? A real ally, through life and death?
If yes — then they’re worth committing to. If not — don’t let impulse lead you astray.