There is one secret to life: never scramble for answers just because you see others turning in their papers.
Because each person carries their own life pattern (格局) and its own cycle — entirely their own.
Some find success at twenty and show their decline by fifty. Others wander lost at twenty and achieve greatness late in life.
There’s nothing more to say about it — everything is fate, a script written for you by the heavens.
So what we should do is savor life’s joys with gratitude and face its sorrows with equanimity, embracing all the twists and turns the script brings with it.
From my experience, hitting your lowest points early in life is absolutely a gift — it lets you see human nature with clear eyes, to witness the coldness of the world and the ugliness within it.
Every injustice you endure is bitter medicine that works.
All of it builds the depth and foundation you’ll need to make your move in the middle stretch of your life.
What’s truly unfortunate is the person who rides high during their prime, only to bring disaster upon themselves in the second half through sheer arrogance — tumbling into a slide from which there is no recovery.
I’ve seen this situation more times than I can count. More often than not, the fortunes scatter and never return.
So remember: from the moment you were born, what bowl you hold, what food you eat, what you go through, when you marry and who — it was all quietly set in place. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Just let things unfold as they will.