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Master Chi shared a reflection this morning that received countless likes and resonance from women readers. After careful consideration, he decided to write a more in-depth follow-up piece — combining personal insight with perspectives drawn from the old world of Chinese society, worldly wisdom, and Chinese classical learning — to set the record straight on some real truths.
If you’re a woman, I’d go so far as to suggest you save this article and print it out. The knowledge packed into these pages is that dense.
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I’ve made the same point across countless articles: if you want to know whether a woman is truly sharp, just observe how often she brings up relationships in her everyday conversations.
Occasionally discussing love — that’s someone with real intelligence. Obsessing over it every single day — that’s someone who isn’t.
Because every romantic problem in the world, the moment it’s laid on the table, turns out to be something completely trivial. No matter how messy or complicated it seems, if you have a normally functioning brain and apply even a little rational thought, you can reach a clear decision quickly.
Look at it this way: women who tangle endlessly in relationships almost always have disappointing careers and weak finances too. At their core, they’re indecisive, unclear-headed, and low on inner strength — in a word, they’re weak.
I often say to the women who come to me for destiny reading (命理) consultations: your life story is far grander and more sweeping than you realize. When a woman devotes every ounce of her mental energy to emotional entanglements, it’s not just a massive insult to your own character — it’s a devastating waste of your precious life force.
And I absolutely refuse to let my readers repeat that mistake.
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Look at the truly intelligent women. When they face romantic situations, they are decisive, clear-headed, and efficient.
If the relationship works — throw yourself into it completely. Grow together as the closest of allies, and carve through life side by side like a blade through soft fruit.
If it doesn’t work — cut it loose. Especially if it crosses a fundamental principle or red line: goodbye, and not another word. What’s there to drag out?
Get to work on yourself. Build your strength and your appeal. Move forward and find someone better. Nobody should be sniffling like a stray dog over past grievances. From that point forward, you owe each other nothing. Turn the page.
Intelligence is precisely what allows a woman to understand this: the moment love becomes the central theme of your life — when it takes over as the master instead of staying in its place — you’ve become a slave to your own emotions. That’s your whole life, gone.
So when I encounter women who can’t see this clearly, I go straight for the blunt truth: “What’s the matter? You’ve lost all composure over something this small? Can you please have some ambition?”
Your own life pattern (格局) still holds so much wealth, so many possibilities, so many genuine connections waiting to be seized — and you’ve let some worthless thing blind you to all of it? Aren’t you embarrassed?
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This is also why I have very little respect for the “pale, young, and thin” aesthetic that’s so fashionable right now.
Aesthetics reveal a person’s inner cognitive level with remarkable precision.
Look at the entertainment world, the influencer world — any woman past thirty who still chases that frail, fragile “little flower” look almost universally declines as time goes on. On the other hand, every woman who rises to real prominence in middle age tends to be one who has grown into a fuller, more substantial figure, while still radiating confidence and presence.
The reason is straightforward. Traditional Chinese medicine has a saying: the deficient body cannot absorb nourishment (虚不受补). Chinese classical wisdom puts it another way: the weak cannot bear good fortune (弱不承福).
A sickly cat will never turn the tide. Only a fierce tiger can hold the territory.
I also tell women this regularly: if you’re going to compare yourself to a flower, at least make it a peony, a rose, or a sunflower — something with a long bloom season and powerful vitality. A tiny daisy that turns to mush the moment someone steps on it? What exactly is there to admire in that?
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Here’s something I find consistently true: whenever a woman comes to me for a destiny reading while she’s in a difficult period — nothing going right, life in chaos — my top priority is never to dive straight into the details of her destiny chart (命盘) or the specifics of her BaZi (Eight Characters of Birth Time).
Instead, I give her one clear, immediate piece of homework: “No matter what happens today — even if the sky is falling — make sure you sit down for three proper meals. Eat until you’re eighty percent full, and make sure each meal has a staple carbohydrate, protein, fat, and vegetables.”
We’re not trying to gain weight. We’re trying to eat well and eat enough.
Don’t listen to those voices telling women that looks are everything, or that “a real woman stays under a hundred pounds, and if you’re heavier, no one will want you.” That kind of small-minded, vicious talk has no place at any respectable table.
Think about it — if you’re all sharp angles and fragility, you might look delicate and refined, but how are you supposed to hold up under real pressure? How do you weather a storm?
Remember this: whatever outcome you’re working toward, you must first ensure you’re eating well, sleeping fully, and keeping your blood and Chi (气) robust. Only from that foundation do you have the strength to arm-wrestle with fate.
Look at Liu Xiaoqing. That’s exactly what I mean.
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I have a habit when I admire public figures: I don’t just look at their achievements — I also look at who they are as people.
That’s why I have particular respect for women like Liu Xiaoqing, Gong Li, Fan Bingbing, Zhao Liying, and Ye Xuan.
You could call them passé, old-fashioned, and point to all sorts of problems with them. They have real flaws and plenty of details that leave something to be desired.
But through all of it, the life force they carry is absolutely genuine.
These women never stop fighting. They never stay down. They’re always looking for the next path forward, the next reason for hope — always moving ahead. Others can find a thousand faults with them. But no one can ignore their will to keep going.
These are the true great flowers. Even when their peak in the entertainment world is behind them, they continue to grow and flourish on the broader path of life.
These women all share something: a broad, settled spirit. Their figures have generally taken on a certain fullness. Their personalities tend to be a bit carefree and unguarded.
Even if life sends them crashing face-first into the ground, they’ll laugh it off — wipe their face with one hand — and keep walking. Leaving behind those who expected tears and dramatic breakdowns, standing there in disappointed silence, exchanging bewildered glances.
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Now the real work of the Year of Yi Si begins.
I don’t want to give you shallow, watery blessings. That’s the kind of thing weak people need — it doesn’t do anything. What, a few warm words and suddenly life smooths itself out? Please.
Instead, let me give you something with real teeth.
This year: lay a solid foundation for your health. Build real footing for your career and your legitimate income. Partner with trustworthy people. Put your full energy into earning and building wealth.
Everything else is barely worth a passing thought. None of it deserves space in your heart.
You’re not stupid. You’re not slow. You’re not ugly or undeserving. You just needed someone who genuinely has your back to shake you awake with some hard truth.
Consider yourself shaken. Now let’s not drift back into confusion.
One last word for the women thinking about coming to me for a destiny reading: I’m going to be honest — my temperament is not particularly gentle. I strongly advise against it if what you’re looking for is emotional comfort and reassurance. I speak plainly, bluntly, and without softening my words. That style tends to be too much for certain people.
But — if what you want is a clear-eyed noble benefactor (Gui Ren) to read your full life pattern, with career, relationships, life path, and wealth laid out step by step — then tonight, be a little brave.