Do you believe it?
There is a certain quality that, the moment a woman carries even the faintest trace of it, her life is essentially ruined.
Career and marriage — both collapse at once. When it rains, it pours.
This quality is what I call perpetual inner conflict.
To be more specific: a permanently furrowed brow, and a heart that is always twisted in knots.
Once this quality surfaces in a woman, it becomes the clearest sign of lifelong hardship — and with near certainty, it will follow her for the rest of her days.
Why?
Because this perpetual inner conflict shapes every decision you make in life. At every critical moment, it pulls you into hesitation and indecision. The result is that many opportunities aren’t lost because you couldn’t seize them — they’re lost because you missed them entirely.
So what causes a person’s heart to be branded with this quality in the first place?
I’ve thought about this at length, and I’ve reflected on the women I’ve encountered over the years through destiny readings — women whose lives were marked by misfortune. The answer I arrived at is a harsh one: the poverty and deprivation of the family they were born into.
Because of that poverty and deprivation, their parents placed extraordinarily high expectations on them — and behind those expectations lay endless pressure.
What this produced, as life unfolded, was an existence in which no misstep was ever allowed. The slightest mistake would bring a torrent of abuse and cold mockery — and from their own parents, no less.
Over time, every step you take in life becomes filled with fear and trembling, as if you’re walking on thin ice.
Until one day, you suddenly realize that time waits for no one, and many things can’t be put off any longer. But at that moment, you fall into what I call the vicious cycle of urgency → mistakes → chaos:
Urgency breeds mistakes. Mistakes breed chaos. Chaos breeds more urgency.
And then you sink deeper and deeper into the mire of misfortune — until you finally give up struggling altogether and simply lie flat.
This is why, whenever I perceive this tightly-wound quality in someone during a destiny reading, I always strongly urge them: learn to relax a little. Let yourself become lighter, more at ease.
Otherwise, sooner or later, you will snap under the tension.
The clearest counterexample is the women I’ve encountered from wealthy families or elite households. Even if their destiny chart (命盘) is not exceptional on paper, their life circumstances rarely turn out badly.
The reason?
Sufficient relaxation. Sufficient ease. Sufficient composure. You don’t see in them that twisted, knotted quality born of years of relentless parental pressure — nor that all-or-nothing, life-or-death attitude that turns every small setback into a crisis.
So when women from wealthy families encounter difficulties in life — even seemingly insurmountable ones — they don’t get stuck, paralyzed between advancing and retreating.
Doesn’t work? Find another path. Failed? Try again. They turn the page with remarkable speed. No dwelling, no self-pity, no over-dramatizing. Their mental energy stays full.
Naturally, over the same passage of time, the woman from a wealthy family accumulates far more experience and perspective than the other.
And so, shaped by the years, she builds what I call a “strong get stronger” long-term advantage in life.
Now, as I write this, what I want to express isn’t just the surface observation of why women from wealthy families tend to thrive.
I also want to share with you a crucial truth about life itself.
My dear — even though I haven’t seen your destiny chart —
I hope you understand: your life is, at its very core, a process of carving jade.
If you want to see the luminous version of yourself that you’ll one day become, you must allow the chisel of time to cut into you — deep enough to draw blood.
You must learn to endure pain. More than that, you must learn to move into the pain. You must learn to walk toward the tiger’s mountain, even knowing the tiger is there.
Remember: sometimes, hardship is the destination — not merely the journey. Because only when you’ve been wounded deeply enough, felt the pain sharply enough, will you find that the soft skin you were born with has begun to grow the scales of a dragon and the feathers of a phoenix.
I once recall a young woman who, after I completed her destiny reading, sat before me in tears. She said she could accept a sweet ending — but she feared the agony of the path to get there.
I couldn’t help but smile, and replied:
Fear hardship, and you’ll endure hardship your whole life. Embrace hardship, and you’ll only endure it for a season.
Plain words. But the truth in them runs deep.
As for what path to choose going forward — I trust you don’t need me to tell you.
From the bottom of my heart, I offer you these same words tonight.