This is a classic repost. Yet as a piece that has fundamentally reshaped the thinking of countless readers, Master Chi sincerely recommends that every reader — new and returning — revisit it carefully. This goes especially for the ladies. I also look forward to hearing your thoughts and perspectives in the comments.
Those of you who follow my writing have probably carried a quiet question in the back of your minds: Master Chi, why do you periodically write articles specifically addressed to women? Why don’t male readers get the same treatment?
The reason is simple. In my personal view, women — as a group — have a far greater need than men to experience a complete demolition and rebuilding of their worldview.
This isn’t a criticism of women’s innate intelligence. It’s because the vast majority of cognitive input available to women in today’s society carries fundamental flaws at its core.
Put another way: the problem isn’t with you. The problem is that the nourishment you’ve been fed is profoundly inferior.
Look around. The topics women treat as gospel — relationships, marriage, life advice — are largely produced by office workers earning less than 20,000 yuan a month, churning out motivational content from behind a desk. What genuine, useful knowledge could you possibly expect from them? Odds are, these writers are less capable and less emotionally intelligent than you when it comes to actually navigating the real world.
What they are skilled at is talking to you in the warm, intimate tone of a best friend — giving you psychological massages, telling you again and again that you’re not the problem, the world is the problem — while feeding you foolish ideas about spending and how to live your life.
Ever wonder why it’s often the most financially struggling and unfulfilled women who spend the most time seeking warmth in those so-called “sisterhood” group chats?
Because those spaces are refuges for women who haven’t made it — dispensaries for emotional painkillers.
The brutal truth is: I’m sorry, but those environments cannot give you the genuine capability to stand on your own two feet, or the real confidence to protect yourself.
Otherwise, why would the women who’ve truly built wealth, careers, and beautiful lives so rarely participate in those conversations?
Because endless gossip, petty relationship dramas, and trivial complaints — no matter how many thousands of times you discuss them — amount to nothing. There is no value in rehashing them.
Regardless of gender: if you spend your days reciting the details of some undignified relationship like a broken record — like the tragic character Xiang Linsao from Chinese literature, who endlessly repeated her sorrows to anyone who would listen — you deserve to remain surrounded by poverty and smallness. No exceptions.
Getting out of the hole and making money — that is your once-and-for-all answer.
Because if you remain stuck in the mud of poverty and degradation, you could shower three times a day and still find specks of foul residue clinging to you moments later.
Think of the fish vendors at a wet market. It’s the environment that gives them that smell they can never quite shake — along with that calculative, transactional temperament that comes from having to count every coin.
Which brings me to the central point: How much responsibility does a woman with a difficult destiny bear for her own life?
The answer is 90% — or more. Yes, you can assign a portion of the blame to your parents, another portion to your marriage. But 90% of the time, the culprit is you. You are the one who played this hand of fate badly.
At this point, many readers — especially women — are probably seething, ready to tear into me: Master Chi, you’re talking nonsense! Can anyone truly control their own destiny today?!
Actually, yes. They can.
I’ve always had what you might call a strong female following — and I don’t mean that romantically. It’s simply that an enormous number of women come to consult me on their fortune cycles and life patterns (destiny framework). If anything, my male readership is the larger group — ha.
But having seen so many women, you naturally develop the ability to see through to their core. If I were to broadly categorize women by tier, there are roughly three levels:
Tier One: The Common Sparrow#
I often say to brothers who’ve hit rock bottom: “Lacking ability is fine — but never lack courage.”
If you lack ability, you can still feel your way forward and keep learning. But if you lack courage, you’ve completely lost the will to fight against the roughness of fate. You are finished.
The more women I encounter, the more I find that this cowardly mindset is actually far more prevalent among women than men.
“I don’t need to work hard or put in any effort — I just need to wait for the right moment, and good wealth fortune and a great marriage will fall right into my lap, won’t they, Master Chi?”
I’d rather not count how many times I’ve been asked this during destiny readings. But let me be clear: even Disney — the very birthplace of fairy tales — has stopped making movies where a passive girl stumbles into a perfect life. And yet here she is, still daydreaming.
Women like this will always have a poor, cramped life pattern. They are destined to miss every opportunity that fortune brings their way. Any wealth opportunity that requires just one or two years of focused effort to unlock — any noble benefactor (Gui Ren) that could be earned with a little self-reflection and growth in perspective — she will meet with the same response: I’ll just lie flat.
I’ll be honest — sometimes even I can’t bear to watch. My consultation fees have never been cheap. How does someone receive a complete roadmap for their life and then carry on exactly as before? I genuinely cannot understand it.
Tier Two: The Soaring Crane#
You might find it strange — why jump from Common Sparrows all the way to Soaring Cranes? Isn’t that too big a leap?
No. This is simply how the tiers among women work: 90% are cannon fodder, 9% are quality, and 1% are exceptional. The gap between tiers is a cliff edge, not a gentle slope.
This also means that for a woman who wants to level up, the barrier is actually quite low. Often, a small correction to her way of living is all it takes.
Let me put it in terms of Chinese metaphysics (玄学): whenever I do a destiny reading and I see that a woman’s life pattern just clears the baseline, I do two things. First, I do my job — lay out all her major life cycles and annual fortune cycles (流年) in detail. Second, I tell her clearly which core capabilities she must develop.
Even as a woman, she must master the domains that men obsess over — politics, economics, property, investing, strategy and power dynamics. At minimum, she needs a working grasp of each.
The world is unsentimental. In many situations, it doesn’t care about your background or your gender. It purely assesses whether you, as a person, have substance.
The Soaring Crane — the quality woman — may vary in how quickly she grasps things, depending on her natural aptitude. But that drive to keep reaching upward never goes out.
Quality women also tend not to be unattractive — even those who weren’t born with conventionally beautiful features. They invest in presentation and upkeep. This is deeply tied to the defining traits of women in this group.
Tier Three: The Phoenix Spirit#
Many people assume women at this level must have exceptional innate talent, high intelligence, and ideal starting conditions. (See also: “What kind of destiny chart does a woman need to truly deserve the word ’exceptional’?” — a classic worth saving.)
Not necessarily. Master Chi regularly encounters women from deeply impoverished backgrounds who’ve gone on to build outstanding lives — not because each of them was especially clever, but because every single one of them was brave.
“Brave” — so many people think this word doesn’t suit women. Yet it is worth more than gold.
Honestly, Phoenix Spirit women tend to have remarkably rich personal histories — pain, failure, and even experiences too humiliating to speak of openly.
Life may have slapped their faces raw with one blow after another. But every one of those experiences became indispensable material — precious wealth in the form of lived wisdom.
Courage bought them real insight: which men are worth trusting, which are only worth leveraging, how to position yourself in rooms where power and resources are being gathered. These are things they handle instinctively.
Innate? No. Your birth chart might set 70% of your life pattern. But you hold the remaining 30%.
And it is precisely that 30% that determines whether you can seize the sweetness fate offers — and sidestep its bitterness.
So whether I’m doing a destiny reading for a woman at this level or simply having a candid conversation with an exceptional woman, it is genuinely a pleasure.
She is nothing like those women who can’t read a room — the ones who wait for others to spell everything out for them, then nod along with complete indifference. Honestly, that kind of client is exhausting.
The exceptional woman, by contrast, absorbs every worthwhile piece of life guidance and every life pattern analysis immediately. She grasps it on a deeper level — and frequently, she anticipates exactly what I’m about to say before I say it.
How could the heavens possibly shortchange a woman like that?
Closing Thoughts#
I know this article may have left many female readers feeling uncomfortable. But bitter medicine cures illness.
Too many women spend their entire lives only reaching for sweetness — consuming so much of it that their hearts rot with cavities — while never once considering that a little bitterness might be exactly the detox they need.
Your life has never lacked for smooth-talking “girlfriends” who surround you with hollow encouragement. That kind of support is worthless — it is the very lie that erodes your self-awareness.
What you truly lack is the repeated, hard slap of real-world experience — the only thing in this world that will tell you exactly how poor, how naive, how foolish, how weak you really are. Only after that kind of pain, after the tears, do people recognize their own deficiencies — and finally begin to correct them.
After all, what we want is counsel that actually matters — isn’t it?