Today I had planned to rest, but a message in my inbox made me decide to write one more article — a small gift for you.
The message that moved me reads: “Master, as a quiet, unknown little reader, I am truly grateful for your relentless dedication to writing. As a daughter from an ordinary family, now approaching my thirties, I deeply hope you could write some life advice for women like us — women without wealthy or privileged backgrounds. Help us avoid the pitfalls, help us not get taken advantage of. You understand the world so clearly, Master. You surely know how difficult life is for ordinary women like us today. If you are willing to offer even a few words of guidance, I would be infinitely grateful.”
She is right.
If you, too, are a daughter from an ordinary family, your early life is destined to be a rocky, uphill road. Your parents could only pass on to you a very limited understanding of life — and most of what they taught is outdated, conservative, and ineffective.
So even if your parents loved you deeply, the truth is they had almost no real positive impact on your personal growth.
These words may sting. They may make you uncomfortable. But you cannot deny this objective reality.
Because destiny reading (命理) is my livelihood, I have encountered an enormous number of girls from ordinary backgrounds — far more than you could imagine. My assessment of girls from this background: obedient, kind, naive, with a spirited drive to prove themselves. Yet destined, due to their shallow inner foundation, to bump into walls at every turn over the next thirty years — wounded again and again by disasters that could have been easily avoided.
Why?
Because your parents never taught you how to sidestep those disasters. They never taught you how to walk your own life path well. Not because they didn’t want to — they simply didn’t have that inner foundation to pass on to you.
So today, I want to settle down and have a deep, honest conversation with you about the essential truths every woman must truly internalize.
I make you this solemn promise: every point in this article has been distilled from the women around me — women who rose from humble origins to become truly distinguished — their hard-won inner wisdom.
All you need to do is read through it carefully, absorb it, sit with it — and then simply watch your life grow more and more beautiful.
Broaden Your Horizons#
Broadening your horizons doesn’t mean buying a plane ticket to stroll the Champs-Élysées for selfies, or lounging on a cruise ship soaking up the comfortable life.
It means dedicating real time and real effort to observing, in genuine detail, how people across all walks of life actually live.
A woman’s scope of vision is critically important.
Vision is not merely conversation fodder. More importantly, it lets you witness firsthand how accomplished women build their lives — and from that, gives you the clarity and courage to move boldly in your own direction.
Why is it that some women carry themselves with such natural generosity, grace, and quiet dignity?
Because their vision is wide enough. They can see clearly what it takes to trade small gains for large ones — to secure long-term benefit.
In contrast, the narrower a woman’s vision, the more completely she traps herself.
Such a woman tends to be petty, calculating, and transactional — willing to offend people and even sabotage outcomes for the sake of minor advantages. She thinks her small schemes are well hidden. In reality, everyone sees through her. They simply choose not to say so.
She feels smug, convinced she has fooled everyone and pulled off something clever.
What she doesn’t realize is that she is weaving her own cage — slowly, step by step, destroying her own room to grow.
The Grand Life Pattern#
A woman’s grand life pattern (格局) comes down to this: can you shed the smallness, the pettiness, the jealousy — and cultivate an ever-wider magnanimity?
I have observed some women closely. They were clearly intelligent — quick-witted, articulate, attractive, from decent families — yet over time their lives grew progressively worse. Eventually I found the answer.
These women only appeared smart on the surface. Beneath it, they were sharp-tongued and mean-spirited. Their instinct was always to find other people’s flaws and dark sides first — and then to win the verbal exchange.
This is a fatal flaw. At its core: rather than spotting what is admirable in others and genuinely learning from it, they preferred to win arguments.
And yet I also observed many women who started with modest gifts but grew more and more flourishing over time. Without exception, they were gentle yet resilient — warm on the surface, with quiet steel at their core.
It is precisely this kind of woman who, with a tolerant spirit and an open heart, continuously draws in new connections, humbly absorbs others’ strengths, attacks no one, schemes against no one, holds no grudges. Naturally, her abilities grow stronger, her network expands, and her life ascends steadily.
The Ascending Mind#
Let me first address a common condition among women: the “emotional mind” — and this is urgent.
The “emotional mind” means making decisions not based on practical benefit, but with personal emotional comfort as the supreme goal. This is the signature ailment of the small-minded, self-important woman who has never truly left her alley.
In any circle, the woman who is selfish and arrogant, emotionally volatile, and lacking all sense of proportion is the textbook case of the “emotional mind.” I have encountered more people than I can count, and I have never once seen a woman like this lead a truly fulfilling life.
Even if she comes from a decent family, what likely awaits her is this: after her parents pass, the family estate crumbles in her hands, and she ends up drained dry by every sort of con artist.
If a woman wants to change her destiny, her thinking must upgrade to what I call the ascending mind.
Everything — absolutely everything — must be oriented around one single question: Does this help me raise my social standing, expand my network, and grow my wealth?
If yes: this is a worthwhile thing. As long as it is lawful, do it.
If no: this is a waste. It is squandering your precious time.
Any woman who thinks this way is someone with clear thinking and focused goals. Every single one of them — give her ten years, and she will climb an entire tier in life. She is formidable.
Dare to Take Action#
“Taking action” (落地) is a term from the business world. It describes a project moving from pure theory and planning into actual execution. From lofty ideas to ground-level doing — that is what it means to take action.
The woman who dares to act will inevitably encounter more stumbles than others. But her overall wealth, her love life, and her quality of living will far outpace the ordinary woman’s.
Most ordinary women share one great problem: they think far more than they act. They always need to be fully prepared before doing anything.
And the result?
While she is still rearranging her luggage, others have already felt their way forward hundreds of meters ahead. By the time she finally takes her first trembling steps, others are already moving with ease and speed.
This is exactly how the gap between people opens up.
As a woman, you must break the habit of daydreaming and become a practical doer. When a good idea or a good goal appears — act on it immediately. Make it real. Get it moving.
Don’t delay. Don’t let the endless “I’m still planning — once I’ve planned it all out, then I’ll go” mindset hold you back day after day.
Do you know? When I read BaZi (Four Pillars of Destiny) charts, the clients I love most are the women who execute with conviction. They are always full of vitality, bursting with life force — and filled with courage. I offer guidance, they dare to act on it — and the result is fresh momentum every year, with fortune transformed utterly within three years.
This, too, is my sincere hope for you, dear foolish girl.