As brothers and sisters to one another, there is one thing we must truly understand.
That is this: making big money should not — and does not need to — be the central goal of your life. If you make getting rich your supreme life goal, you will live in misery, and you still won’t get rich.
Life is just that ironic.
I’ve seen a great many people’s destinies, so I understand clearly the logic behind how life gets better and better.
It starts with this: never put the cart before the horse. Trading your health for any goal is the dumbest move you can make.
So many people simply don’t get it. Even if you’re royalty — even if your wealth and glory have reached the absolute peak — none of it can outweigh the pain of a single toothache, let alone chronic illness.
Then comes harmony among the six relations (liu qin) — your family bonds.
You can only truly appreciate this once you’ve built your own family. A thoughtful wife, a dependable husband, in-laws who don’t stir up trouble, children who are sensible and driven — any one of these is a luxury that billionaires would pay millions for without batting an eye.
Once you have good health and family harmony in place, you’ll find that doing your work well becomes easy.
Your energy and focus can pour fully into the hustle.
Because you have a solid foundation — you know your rear is secure, you know you have the physical capital to fight. That’s what creates the conditions for success.
Let me also clear up a common misconception. The vast majority of people still think success and getting rich works like this: “Pick the right direction, take a shot, win big!”
It has never worked that way. Not once.
Open any biography of a truly wealthy person, or ask someone genuinely rich around you. (Note: truly wealthy — not suddenly rich.)
The hustle is always a slow process.
First comes confusion. Then slowly you start to find your footing. Then comes repeated failure. Then you keep going anyway, and by solving one problem after another, you grow more skilled, more seasoned, more confident.
And then the veins of wealth — like gold in a mine — get slowly, bit by bit, excavated. And the more you dig, the better you get.
So the path is: health → family stability → career hustle → a smooth life. It’s a chain, one link at a time. I have never seen anyone succeed by scrambling that order.
Of course, there are exceptional outliers — people who managed to succeed while their home life was a wreck and their body was on the verge of collapse.
But clearly, that is not what I want for you.
What I want for you is to walk steady and grow rich slowly. Only then, when the wealth comes, can you actually hold onto it.
And only then can you truly enjoy the comfortable life that wealth can bring.
After all, nobody wants to be lying in the ICU watching their family tear each other apart over the fortune they spent their life building.